Dear Queenie, I have been seperated from my fiancee for 6 months and we have a 4 yr old son. I want her to have councilling with me but she is happy with her new life without me. I know she still has strong feelings for me and we had a reasonable 7.5 years together. What should I do to persuade her to at least try?
Author: Queenie
Doesn’t Want to Hurt Her
Ok.. Been seeing this women for a little over 6 months. She says she loves me but won’t sleep with me… I must admit, I have NEVER waited this long for anyone.. Not even for ex’s that I was madly in love with.
He Has A Girlfriend
Dear Queenie, I have a problem. I have been seeing this guy for about 4 months and he has a girlfriend. I really like him. He is everything I have ever wanted.
1-800 Phone Sex
Dear Queenie, we’ve been married for three weeks and I just found out he is calling 1-800 sex lines. He doen’t know that I know. Is this cheating?
Dating Before Divorce?
Queenie, If you are separated from your husband is it wise to be in another relationship?
Boyfriend’s Daughter Disrespectful
Queenie, I’m 42 and my boyfriend of two years is 44. We both have kids and his 18-year old daughter has treated me with such disrespect for about a year and a half. Her Dad (my boyfriend) will not insist she apologize or discipline her so her behavior has gotten progressively worse. We do not live together.
Is the Marriage Over?
Dear Queenie, I have been separated for over a year. I still love my husband, while recognizing both his faults and good points. My husband loves me, I think, at some level, but does not want to spend time with me or try to get back together.
Childhood Ridicule
Dear Queenie, I am a woman who had body odor, due to a medical condition, in the past. I have worked hard to get my health back and it was no walk in the park. However, the harsh treatment which I received from others due to this problem has scarred me, for life I believe.
Getting Personal
Dear Queenie, what is your gender, age if you don’t mind also, just curious. — Jennifer
Does He Still Care?
Dear Queenie, I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years and we have been engaged for 1 year. Everything was great in the beginning, he was affectionate and I fell for him very quickly but lately he has changed.
Are They Still Friends?
Dear Queenie, I have been involved with a person (a lady), and have been very good to her financially and just as a friend and confidante. I have always been there for her, to run errands, buy food and generally been there at her beck and call.
Friendship Over?
I’m not one for asking for advise usually. I have my closest friend of well over ten years dropping me for her work buddies. Who i cant stand. I have tried to get along with them but it all came to a head one evening.
Should She Fake It?
Dear Queenie, first I should make it clear I didn’t start this whole thing–my BF did and what started out as a silly conflict became a serious problem.
He’s Not Romantic
Dear Queenie, I have been in a relationship for 6yrs. and I have been thinking of leaving him because he is not romantic at all. He says that he isn’t like that!
Partying With His Single Friends
Hello, Queenie, I need advice regarding my husband. We have been married for 2 years, however together for five years. We have a 3 year old child also. Up to last year, things were pretty tense for us, and we questioned whether or not we should call it quits.
Taken for Granted?
Dear queenie, my boyfriend and i have been seeing each other for almost 5 years, lately though i’ve started to wonder what it would be like if i was single. we get on very well, have our arguments, but generally get on well.
Is He Cheating?
My husband cheated on me 7 months ago, but i forgave him and we got back together. our relationship was the best ever. now he is actting the same way. but he says he loves me and is happy. he dont act like it. and he is not a talker. what should i do?
Jealous of Ex Girlfriend
Dear Queenie: I am a 40 year old divorced female. I have been dating R for 10 months he is 44 years old. We love each other dearly and we are talking about marriage. The problem is that he is still friends with his ex girlfriend, which I really consider to be his ex wife.
She Dreams About Someone Else
Queenie, I am going to cut this as short as possible. I am 21 years old and married with a two year old son. I have been married three years. During our three year marriage, my husband and I have separated well over five times.
Engaged But Unsure
Dear Queenie, I am 20 and single but engaged to a girl who I have been with for about a year and 3 months now. The problem is that I have realized something about this relationship that is making me question everything I know.
He’s Confused
Dear Queenie, why do some men say I love you one day and in two days turn around and tell you that they are scared and need time to think? I have such a man.
Worried About Her Sexual History
Hi, i am looking for specific relationship advice. I just got engaged to my fiance, and I am begining to find out more and more specific information about her relationship history. She’s been with a lot of guys, from my point of veiw anyways.
His Wife Can’t “Get Over It”
Dear Queenie: Should I just leave? About 5 months ago I cheated on my wife through her so called womans intuition she put 2&2 together and found out. Now she just can drop it every now and again out of the clear blue she gos off about it.
She Went Back To Her Ex
Dear Queenie, I just got dumped by my girlfriend of 5 months. We really clicked and everything was great. She had a moment where she wanted to give her ex another chance but after a few days we were back together.
Wanted To Be A Normal Teenager
Dear Queenie, 2 weeks ago my girlfriend (17yrs) and me (23yrs) broke up after 2 and a half years together. Her reasons for breaking up were that she wasn?t in love with me anymore, she didn?t want to be in a relationship and she just wanted to act like a normal teenager.
An Almost Sexless Marriage
My husband and I have been together for 11 years and married for 5 years in a few months. The problem is we hardly every have sex anymore. I talk to him about it all the time in fact probably too much now.
Is She Being Used?
Dear Queenie, I’ve been married for 10 years now, my husband had a back injury almost 4 years ago. He is on social security, but about a year ago he has healed enough to golf. He got a part time job at a golf course 2 days aweek and golfs now every chance he gets.
Is he too old for her?
Hi: I really need advice, I’m very confused… I’m 20 yrs. old, and I’m obsessing over a 30 yr. old guy, is that normal??
Married With Roommates
Dear Queenie, I read your response to the latest person whose husband cheated with a roomate. You seemed surprised that married couples have roomates.
Husband Cheating With Roommate
Dear Queenie, I recently got back from visiting my family to find out that my husband has cheated on me with our roommate. The other part was her boyfriend was in on it too.
Jealous Boyfriend
Confused and don’t know what to do. I am a 23 year old with a 25 year old boyfriend who is constantly accusing me of cheating on him. Since we have been together I have never cheated on him.
Depression After Affair?
Six months ago my husband of 10 years (we have a child together) came to me and told me that he had an a affair with our roommate and close friend.
Friends With Benefits
Dear Queenie, I met this guy about a year ago and when we met he stated that he wanted to be friends and I was okay with that. A few weeks later he asked if we could be friends who have sex and I said no and held off for a while but then one night it happened and it has been happening every since.
Why Does He Ignore Her?
Dear Queenie, I am pretty good at reading people but I can’t seem to crack this one and that is why I am writing you for advice!
She’s Slept With a Married Man
O.K, I’ve slept with a married man who’s the cousin of my best friend. He’s been after me for at least a year and at first I ignored all of his passes. Well recently we saw each other and exchanged numbers.
Nightly Phone Calls
I am back together with my ex-boyfriend (we’ve been broken up for over 3 years now), and he went away to school about a week after we got back together. I don’t expect THAT much but I DO enjoy talking to him on a nightly basis. I believe that is what is needed in a long-distance relationship: communnication.
Unhappy in his new home
My boyfriend and I have moved into a house, it is his old family home which he bought from his parents who have moved just accross the road. I am very unhappy there but he loves the house and won’t even consider moving.
Not ready to live together
My boyfriend and i have been together for about 3 years. Im his first relationship and hes my 4 long term relationship. About a year ago i had mentioned moving in together since im ready and it would be more convieniant since he lives 30 min away.
They’re both married
I am torn between boyfriend and hubby. Boyfriend says he loves me more then anything in the world and I love him. He is married, we are in love, but do not know how to break the news to hubby. Do not want to hurt either one of them. What should I do to break the news to hubby.
Time to say goodbye
How do you know when it’s time to say goodbye? — Chloe
Proposes only when he’s drunk
I started dating this guy from work with whom I was very close friends for a couple of years before we dated. He decided he couldn’t commit but wanted to stay close friends stating that ‘if he had more to give, he would.’ He has now moved in with me but we only have occassional sex because it would require a commitment to have it regularly, according to him.
She’s Fallen Out of Lust
I have fallen out of lust with my husband of 16 years, and know find myself thinking about a male friend who is a lot slimmer and more attractive than my husband. I am finding it very hard to rekindle any sort of sexual feelings for my husband now. What can I do? — Flo
This Time It’s Different For Him
I met a married man a few months ago, I know he has feelings for me, but not strong enough to leave his wife. He calls every day to check on me. He made a mistake by not calling me when he said he was going to once, so I avoided his calls, no longer wanting this relationship to continue.
Cheating Out of Boredom?
Queenie, I am 25 years old and have been married 1 year and 2 months. The man I am married to was the most amazing guy I had ever met before we married. About 1 month after we were married, I went to visit my family he thought I would stay the night as they live 180 miles away. I decided to come home, and his ex girlfriend called our house at 12:30 in the morning.
Can She Get Him Back?
I had a boyfriend of 6 years who recently broke up with me, said he needed time. He has a friend who is a girl that they both feel that they have feelings for each other because they spend so much time together.
Cheated On Military Boyfriend
Desperate please help, My boyfriend is in the millitary and currently overseas recently I cheated on him and had to tell him out of guilt and fear of him hearing from someone else.
Too Early for Sex?
I’m asking can my wife have sex after 5 weeks of child birth let me know if it could be done. thank you. — Mark
Not Spending Enough Time Together
I have been dating my boyfriend for about 6 months and I have realized that over these months it is like he does not want to spend any time with me. I almost feel that he goes out of his way not to spend any time with me.
He Needs Space
I have been dating this guy for 1 yr. He has told me he needs some space. He says he still wants to be with me we just see too much of eachother (4-5 dys wk.) What type of relationship can you have 1-2 dys a wk?
Strip Clubs
Dear Queenie, I am struggling to accept the fact that the man I am dating has worked at a strip club and dated only strippers his entire life. He is a very smart, loving man and has never had a good girl, I am wrong for being down on myself for liking this man?
Dirty Dancing
Hi, I went away for the weekend to go snowboarding. When I got back my boyfriend of 4 years had already called me. I thought it was to see how my trip went. He seemed normal but I asked him what he did on the weekend. I already knew that he was planning to get drunk one night. I asked him if he went to the bar. He said yes. I asked who he danced with, he said “I don’t remember.”
Is It Really Love?
I have a boyfriend almost fiance of one and a half years. we lived together for the first year of the relationship and we started having problems so I moved out. Since I have moved out we have agreed to see each other on the weekends.
She’s 16
Hi ok this is my question what do i do if i know someone that is dating someone that is 16 and she is dating someone that is 19 and her father is controlling and they love each other a lot and dont want to leave each other what should that person do to get the permission to date the person from the father what should they say or do to get there permission? — Jeremy
Unconditional Love?
Hi there, My name is Jake and 26 yrs old. I have been going out w/ this girl for almost 6 yrs, we met in college. She broke up w/ me because of some very poor excuses: I won’t make more money than her, I’ll never get a job in NYC, I’m white and shes Asian. Less than a month after the breakup, she has a new boyfriend who looks like me! Except that he makes 70k more than I do.
Teaching Someone to Love
Queenie, I met this guy off the internet we were talking for a year. just complete friendship nothing more, he got mushy with me one day and said he thought we had a bond together. that threw me off my chair! we finally met and when we did I feel head over heels in-love with this guy and couldn’t be without him any longer so I left everything behind and moved in with him.
Chat Room Lover
I’ve been seeying the same guy for nearly 3 years now and like others we’ve had our ups and downs but there always seems to be something missing leading my interests else where. i do love him, but recently i met a guy on the chat rooms who i really like and have been texting frequently without the knowledge of my boyfriend.
Approval to Cheat?
Hello, Queenie: When my wife and I were dating about 10 years ago, she used to say that if one of us was ever disabled, the other one should be free to pursue other sexual partners.
Re-kindling the Relationship
Hi. i’m a 22 yr old guy. ive been with my girlfreind for 2 years and we’ve got on great. she’s just got back from a 2 week-long trip (i missd her alot, the longest we’ve been apart) and ignores me and is just generally off towards me.
Can She Trust Him?
My husband has been cheating for about years… He told me he was traveling for business but I have found out he has been traveling to another state to be with this woman and her daughter… I never thought he would do that to me and our three boys…
Looking for Forgiveness
My partner of seven years ended our relationship roughly three months ago. She has moved back to her hometown with our six-year-old daughter and I have very little contact with her except over the phone when I speak to our daughter, or discussing issues about our daughter.
Read His Email
I have a fiancee, i met him in internet, we love each other we shared thoughts, chatt w/ him everyday, he see me on webcam everyday.
Best Friends
My best friend met a guy and a week later is sleeping with him. The next week he moves in with her. This lady really wants to get married. I think she is making a big mistake.
Habitual Cheater
If a guy has a pattern of habitually cheating on every woman he has ever been with for 20 years do you believe they can change that pattern without therapy or counseling? — Mary
High School Love
I am a 45 yr old woman, married 22 yrs with one child. I know I love my husband and he loves me, but….back in HS (where I met my husband) there was another guy. We were very close “buddies” back in those days, and even said we cared more for each other on one occassion, back then. He often told me I was the one for him and that I broke his heart. He let all our circle of friends know how he felt, yet, we remained close friends.
Scared of Commitment
So here goes…my boyfriend is in a mess. He thinks he’s scared of the big commitment thing-don’t get me wromg i’m not one of those pressurising women that can’t wait to get a rock on my finger, i’m in no rush. Everything commitment move ie.moving in together, setting up a joint account has been his idea, which i’ve gladly gone with because for me he is the one- (at least i hoped so!).
Why Get Married?
i have been with my fiance for about 14yrs know he asked me to marry him about 2 yrs ago but we been together since 88 im only 27 yrs old and he is 26 i love him very much but i feel he is dragging his feet about getting married hes happy with the situation we have we live together what do you think — Daisy
Trust Issues
My boyfriend and i met while travelling last year. We have both come home and continued out relationship. Only porblem is that we dont get to spend alot of time with each other. And only get to see each other every Saturday evening untill Sunday evening.
Abusive Marriage on the Rocks
Dear queen, I married me husband because I was pregnant. I thought that would be the answer to my problems despite his bad temper and mean outbursts. Today is our two year wedding anniversary and I have been in tears all morning.
Pregnant and Angry
I am in desperate need of advice. I am currently 6 months pregnant and am dealing with a sudden breakup. My ex of three years dumped me when I became pregnant for a second time. We already have a two year old together. He is 24 and I am 25.
Porn Magazines
I am a recently married young woman (21) to a man (28) I love very much. Things have been a little difficult lately as we are trying to get on our feet financially. Neither of us are working steady jobs but money is okay.
Friends With Benefits
Dear Queenie, I’ve recently divorced and engaged in a relationship with a co-worker who’s been divorced almost as recently as I have. We got very serious and he said he was serious about us and about our future together, we talked about marriage and children. But suddenly, he grew distant and colder on me. I finally asked why and he said he needed space, he was getting confused and needed time apart.
Should She Leave Him Alone?
My boyfriend broke up with me a month ago. I really don’t get why. he tells me it is because he doesn’t know himslef and he needs to go find himself. then the next thing i know he tells me that he isn’t sure if i am the one. i don’t want to get married quite yet. not for a couple of years.
Ready to Leave Her Older Husband
Dear Queenie, I read a lot of your columns and I like your answers. My situation is similar to the “Switched Roles” but not exactly. I have been married 10 years to a man 22 years older than me (now I am 40; my first marriage, his third); we have a 3.5-yr.old and a 0.5-yr.old (he also has a 42-yr.old and a 27-yr.old), who was a colleague of my father’s.
He Has Disappeared
I am very confused. my husband and i had some problems. he tried to commit suicide. and then he tried to make me help him of course i refused. then he turned it around and said fine were both going to die and a bunch of bad things took place and he went to jail and from there they sent him to the hospital.
Affair With a Friend
Following 5 years of marriage and 4 children my wife had an affair with a friend. The affair was exposed and then she lied about the sex for a period of 36 years, now I am aware and am wondering what to do. Remember the trust, loyalty, humility, insult, and dispair is gone.