Author: Queenie

But What Else Is He Doing?

My husband look at men /men having sex.

Most men are very sexual creatures and enjoy sex in many ways. If he is looking, I wouldn’t be too concerned. If he is having sex with men then I’d be concerned. If he is having sex with men you need to protect yourself if/when you have sex with him. The spread of HIV/AIDS from male lover(s) to husband to wife is not uncommon. ~ Queenie

Stay or Go?

What if in the middle of their 10 years of marriage, one of them wants to end up their relationship. Should they wait to finish the said contract?

Generally, “said contract,” if you’re referring to the marriage vows, are “until death do us part.” Is that what you mean by “wait to finish” the marriage? Continue reading Stay or Go?

Not The Right One

iam in contact with a guy from a week, but he is not compatible in terms of educational qualifications & also not doing any job. i live in hostel, introvert person, very few frnds.. i want a guy with whom i can shop, can go for movie, share my feelings.. but i think it is not good for use someone for my profit.. he is asking me about being in relationship? what to do? Continue reading Not The Right One

He’s Ready To Date, She’s Not

I’ve had feelings for this girl for three years, i finally became friends with her about 11 months ago and now we’re really close, i’m in grade 9 right now and she says she’ll only start dating after high school. she goes to a different hig hschool than me but i see her almost everyday at her bus stop. if just stop being her friend, she’ll cry and hate me forever. should i just wait the four years? Continue reading He’s Ready To Date, She’s Not

Is He A Cheater?

It was quite a while ago but i saw a few scratch marks on my bfs back and i cant remember what they look like so please dont ask! has he maybe cheated or possibly just scratched his back.

Also there was another case about seven months before this he went to the park with a friend and had his phone switched off all day because he knew id be annoyed that he went and didnt tell me, as i was pregnant at the time and wouldnt have been able to go on anything. the next day i noticed a bite mark on the upper inside of his thigh (with teethmarks). Continue reading Is He A Cheater?

Friends, Lovers, or Something In Between?

Right, I have this situation that obsesses me, keeping me impatient and some advise actually told me to be patient with it right now.

I’ve had thoughts about the same person for months, since we’ve had some romantic feelings towards each other and renewed love a coupple of times since when we met years ago, getting more and more intense now and looks “just a little” promising. Continue reading Friends, Lovers, or Something In Between?

Pressure or Non-Committal?

My boyfriend (33) and I (31) have been together for 2.5 years. We have spoken about marriage twice in our relationship in the past two years and said that we wouldn’t date for more the three years. 3 weeks ago My boyfriend said that he was unsure of a commitment w me because I pressured him. Because he said he was unsure of a commitment w me, I told him that he had 7 months to propose or else we were done. We didn’t speak for two weeks. Continue reading Pressure or Non-Committal?

Inappropriate Photo Request?

I have been married for almost 2 years now and still learning the ropes of being married. I am a stay at home mom. It was recently my 10 month old baby’s baptism which we had in another country where we could vacation at the same time, my husband and I invited a bunch of friends along for the trip including single friends where we vacationed together for 1 week. Continue reading Inappropriate Photo Request?

Cheating With ‘Just A Woman’

I checked my boyfriends phone and I found messages from him and his friend talking about a Czech girl… my boyfriend stated that she tried to kiss him last night and that she tried to take her home and that she had been buying him drinks all night. His friend encourages him to sleep with her and said that its just a woman…. I am really worried about this what can I do? Continue reading Cheating With ‘Just A Woman’

Blending Together

I am separated from my same-sex partner of 18.5 years (couldn’t get married for legal reasons).  We have two 10 year old girls and we split custody fairly amicably.

For the last year I have been in a relationship with a family friend the whole family has known for about 3.5 years.  The girls like him very much and he loves them as his own (he has 2 grown children).  He works out of our house so he is here every day and the kids really enjoy being with him. Continue reading Blending Together

How Can He Please Her?

My question is how can I please my girlfriend again after a serious quarrel?

That’s a very vague question with TLI for me to know what that serious quarrel was about or how many times you’ve been having that same serious quarrel. Did you cheat, again? If that’s the “quarrel” then maybe you’ve run out of chances with her. Whatever happened, if you really want to try again, talk to her, say you’re sorry, beg, cry, promise her anything. If she forgives, don’t screw up again. If she won’t forgive, take it as a learning experience and don’t screw up when you’re in a new relationship. ~ Queenie

Does She Love Him?

I want 2 know if the i girl  proposed truely loves me bt i don’t know how?

Marriage is serious. It really should last a lifetime although it’s difficult to know which lifetime that is: the lifetime warranty on a PlayStation; the lifetime warranty on a set of tires; the lifetime warranty on a pacemaker. Or maybe your lifetime. Regardless of which lifetime, why would you propose to someone you’re not sure is in love with you? If she said “yes” that should be your answer–at least for whatever lifetime fits her definition. ~ Queenie

He Hasn’t Called

Hi, I am from India. I fell in love with this guy the moment i saw him. I approached him and he agreed. We have been together for more than 3 months. I saw no problems except that he never called much. It was usually me who called. He spoke about our future together first. Now al of a sudden he asked for a break because he needed to think about where we are headed. Continue reading He Hasn’t Called

Is There A Future For Us?

I fallen in love with a married man, whose wife cheats with internet lovers every day, after 4 years of declaring our undying love, still separate by OCEANS, Tell me is it worth it? Am I wasting my time? He is so sincere when he talks to me, I don’t think he has the guts to leave her as she always says she can kill herself. Is there any future for us? His Christian belief is to be positive. I am the negative side? Continue reading Is There A Future For Us?

Too Old For Him?

So, I am happily married. My husband has spent the last week organizing a large conference through work. I just learned that at the banquet last night his co-workers took their spouses. I was not invited. I’m hurt. I am also 9 years older than he is and I’m wondering if he is ashamed of me. That is my hot button. My default. I’m too old for him. I am 54 and he is 45. Am I paranoid? Continue reading Too Old For Him?

The Dating Test

Queenie, I’m usually not in to these type of things, but I feel I need to get this off my chest and possibly get some advice. I have been dating my Girl friend for a little over a year and a half, I’m 27 and she is soon to be 31. We have had our share of struggles and I’m not a perfect person. We have had many problems with communication mostly my issue. We have worked to hash out much of those problems. Continue reading The Dating Test

Intimacy Without Honesty

ok my best friend of nine years and i are finally in a relationship. the problem is that now that we are coming to our one year anniversary we are becoming dull-especially in the sex department. i mean he is the most wonderful man but we both rushed the whole him moving in with me thing so what i’m asking is how do i tell him that we need more space to ourselves without sounding like i want to breakup with him? it’s really hard since i’ve seen all his past relationships fail due to them cheating on him. he smothers me and i like that but how do i get some freetime without him? i need HELP! – Jennifer from honolulu Continue reading Intimacy Without Honesty

Feeling Unconnected

Dear Queenie, I am currently in a long distance relationship. We have known each other as friends/roomates/dated a little for over a 20 year span. He’s 52 and I’m 48. We have decided to get married (neither of us has been married before, I have had two long term relationships, but I don’t think he has) and I am to move to Tampa as soon as I can obtain employment. Continue reading Feeling Unconnected

His Girlfriend Is Torn Between Two Lovers

I’m a 37 year old male who has been in a committed 3 year relationship. I love the girl very much and had intentions of marriage as did she at one time. Due to a few bumps in the road, ie-she was in a near fatal accident (I helped nurse her back to health over a period of approximately 1 1/2 years and some financial/business difficulties on my part), marriage was pushed to the side.

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Taking Time To Grieve

i have recently split up with a man that i thought i was in love with, we were very happy most of the time. but he had a friend that died a year before i met him, they where very close. i felt that he had not had much time to gieve, and wanted to support him. we talked lots about her, and death, it made me very sad. sad for a girl to die so young, and sad for her family.

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Star Power

I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years now, but the fact that she like this celeb has bugged me, i feel like if he were here, she’s eventually leave, or have even STRONGER feelings for him and wouldn’t leave me because she’s feel sorry about my feelings, I feel like she’d be TONS happier with him, even though she says she wouldn’t be, so should i worry about this at all?

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Not The Time For Serious Dating

I am 33 and currently going through a divorce. Recently I met a 26 year old girl at work. We are both very interested in each other. When I met her she had a boyfriend who she has lived with for 5 years. By meeting me she realized many problems she had not realized in her own relationship. I brought them to light by the way I treated her, which was much better than her boyfriend treated her. She broke up with him to be with me even though my divorce is not final.

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Can She Trust Him Again?

I married a man who when I met him was separated from his wife. He said he was not happy in the relationship and that she did want to give it a go except he wanted to be with me, now three years into our relationship we are married with a baby I found out he has been in contact with her the whole time, even sending her gifts and a picture of our baby.

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How Long Will She Wait?

I’m a 34-year old, never-been-married woman who has been dating a 38-year old divorced man for almost three years. He has been divorced for five years and has a 10-year old son. We have a wonderful, loving and trusting relationship (I’ve met his entire family, gone on vacations with him and his son), but we have hit a plateau in that I want to move the relationship to the next level by getting married but he is hesitant.

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Should She Worry About His Ex?

My boyfriend has a very close relationship with his ex-girlfriend. they lived together for 3 yrs. They broke up 8 months before we met (he and i are in a on-again-off-again 5 months now–for a lot of reasons). He and his ex constantly talk on the phone to this very day. I told him that this bothers me. I don’t see why they still have to keep close contact with each other–they have no kids, don’t work together, etc. He even told her that I am jealous of her!

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Can Their Friendship Turn Into More?

I have had a best friend for 10 years. We are both divorced. She is straight and I am not. (both female) She has dated a few men over the years. I have not dated much. We talk on the phone everyday and hang out together on the weekends. I think I have deeper feelings for her than she has for me. I don’t know if she represses her feelings.

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