I dated P for 1 year and then moved west to teach. He told me he would give me one year and then he wanted me to move back east. We dated long distance throughout that year and at the end I did not know if he was the one for me. I told him I need more time to make sure. I was trying to find myself.
Author: Queenie
Really Desperate for a Relationship
Hi Queenie, I would very much appreciate your advice since I am lingering in a sad state and would like to go on with my life. I’m 35, divorced for 2 1/2 years, with a beautiful 6-year old daughter. Generally, my life is good. The only thing that’s missing is love.
Strung Along By Her High School Sweetheart
Me and my High School sweetheart were together for 4 1/2 years. After graduation he cheated on me and had a baby in the situation. It was a very HARD thing to go through. I couldn’t understand what was going on because we had a great relationship. We were like best friends which is probably the reason we never have ceased talking in one way or another.
The Third Wheel In Her Marriage
Ive been having an affair with a married woman for over 10 years now. She keeps insisting that she will leave her husband of 16-years but ALWAYS comes up with creative excuses not to. I continue to wait at home alone for her while she spends most weekends and all holidays (some vacations) with him.
Is He Lying?
My boyfriend and I have been dating since Dec and I got pregnant in Feb. Just recently I was at his house, his phone rang and I answered it. It was a girl on the other end. She hung up on me. She called back on Sunday and told me that she and my boyfriend have been dating since Oct and just broke up in March.
Could She Change?
I broke up with my girlfriend a few days ago because I felt that she was lying to me about alot of things. She does drugs and hangs out in bars on a regular basis and prefers to go to these places without me. She says that she does not want the burden of having to be attentive to me around her friends.
His Female Roommate
I’ve been with my boyfriend for about a year & 1/2. He was separated when I first met him and his divorce has been ‘final’ for a few months now. Overall we have a Great relationship, he treats me like I want to be treated with Respect, as I do the same for him. I believe he does love me and shows me this thru his actions even though he has never said it.
Are Physical Looks Important?
iam 22 years with 5ft7″. but i weigh only approx 59kgs and so looks a bit thinner. I love a girl with good looks and figure but i am unable to express my feeling to her as i feel that i am undersize for her and so she may not like me.
Will He Come Back to Her?
My partner of 17 years out of the blue just said he was leaving he is 31 this year and i have turned 32 we have two girls 9 & 5.
Is He Scared To Commit?
My girlfriend and I have been together for several years and I do love her very much. Lately we have begun talking about getting married and all I can do is think about the woman I was dating before we got together. In my heart I know that she was the love of my life and I never expected to lose her.
Starved For Affection
I love my fiance very much. The problem is that he just isn’t very affectionate at all and I am. He rarely even touches me. We have great sex but not as often as I would like to. I have tried to give subtle hints without being pushy or needy, but he just wants to watch TV or go to sleep. Even on weekends!
Best Friends And A Lot More
My question is, I have had this best friend for 12 years, her and I are very close, We would have been together if I hadn’t moved around so much. As the years went on we went our way’s, both of us thinking that we wouldn’t find no one settled for someone else. Her marraige didn’t work, after 5 yrs, and well, knowing that she was now married I settled for a old flame.
Sleeping With A Mutual Friend
One of my closest friends had a crush on a mutual friend of ours for a few months, but never did anything about it. They talked on the phone occasionally, however she never told him of her feelings. In the meantime I was becoming more and more attracted to him.
Girls’ Night Out
I have been married for almost 2 years and I love my husband more each day; however, the other night while I was out (a girls night out sort of thing), a guy hit on me at a bar. It was overwhelmingly flattering and I felt some attraction for him.
Her Husband’s A Flirt
My husband is driving me crazy. He is a flirt, but denies it. Every young woman (about 16 to 30) he smiles, laughs, jokes, even takes pictures of with his camera. He works out of town about 5 days out of every week. He even comes home and tells me about these encounters.
Flirting With Disaster
I have been happily married for 14 years to a wonderful man who treats me like gold. I am crazy in love with him. My problem is prior to getting married I had a terrible 9 year relationship with my first love. He treated me like dirt, cheated lied etc.
Living Separate Lives
I’m 46. My wife (37) divorced me last year after 5 years. Second marriage for both. I had adopted her daughter and we had a child together – they’re 8 and 5. Reason: just didn’t want to be married; wanted her own space, etc…
She Needs Space
I write to you for a better understanding on the woman I am in love with. My biggest problem with her is that whenever I try and talk to her about things that are bothering me, more often than not if it is something she does not want to hear, she gets angry and it turns into a fight.
Looking For Mr. Right
Dear Queenie, first of all, I want to say I think your advice is very sound and compassionate and I read your previous columns with great interest. But, none seems to relate to my exact problem.
Her Best Friend Is Jealous Of Her New Love
My question is: I have a friend that i am extremely close with. She and I would usually do everything together. We would stay on the phone each night for hours and on the weekends, we would hang out most all weekend.
Two Kisses And You’re Out
Hi, I’ve been with my boyfriend for just over a year now. Things were perfect until I went on a girls night out and kissed another guy. I don’t know why I did it, I think that the spark was dying off a bit, and I totally regret it. But I did it again on another girls night out and so I confessed to my boyfriend because I believe honesty is essential and I hoped we could start afresh.
Torn Between Two Lovers
I brook up with my boyfriend of three years because of family issues and the fact that he hurt me. I am now seeing a man who is seven years younger than me. He has a good head on his shoulders and he claims that he is in love with me.
Does He Deserve Another Chance?
I guess what I am wanting to know is what should I do? I’ve been in a relationship with this man for about a year and had many good times with him, although one night we had been drinking and things got out of control. He hit me! I kicked him out and he moved to California.
The Trust Is Gone
My ex-boyfriend and i recently broke up after a two & a half year relationship because he found out i went out with another guy when we were on a break. i don’t know what to do, i love him very much and feel like he’s the one i want to be with for the rest of my life, but nothing seems to be working out.
Giving His Family The Cold Shoulder
I have been dating my girlfriend for the last 2 years. Marriage has been brought up, but there are two issues that concern me. One is that she does not like to attend my family gatherings, whether they are too large, she doesnt like crowds, of she doesn’t like certain people, she won’t go.
Battling Sweethearts
Me and my boyfriend seem to fight alot to the point to where we hit each other and yell. we also threaten each other. i tell him to leave me alone and he leave sme and we end up breaking up but than we get back together.
Married Men and Married Women
Why do married men enjoy sleeping with married woman ? I heard it is because they don’t have to support them and that a married men give woman what they are lacking in there lives. — Diane
Her Husband And His Girlfriend
My boyfriend of 8 years and husband of two years, has decided to leave me pregnant for his girlfriend. She has already moved in our home and now he issists he wants to go to birthing classes and be there for the birth of our child.
Playing With Fire
I am a married woman recently having a mild flirtation/sexual type hugging with a married co worker..this has been happening for about two weeks now, in a closed room at work.
Too Pooped To Pucker
I’ve been with my boyfriend on and off for seven years now. We haven’t broken up in about two years but we do fight when days go by with out seeing each other. He works from 8:30 to 6P and I work from 5:30 to 12 or 1/2 in the morning (I’m a food server) I know that our hours have put a strain on the relationship and my sexual drive.
Missing Bracelet Just A Symptom?
My husband and I have been married 28 years. Over the years he has given me gifts of jewelry. I usually don’t wear jewelry, not even a watch. His first gift was a pair of small diamond stud earrings for our first anniversary. I had to get my ears pierced in order to wear them. I did not want to hurt his feelings.
Can’t Seem To Remember His Marriage Vows
I have known this woman for approx 13 yrs. We have always been sexually compatible with good chemistry. She has been divorced twice. I am presently married and have been for 22 yrs.
Three’s A Crowd
I am a 32 year old divorced woman who has been been seeing a wonderful 38 year old man for over a year now that I care for very deeply. He owns a cottage in the northern country where he spends a lot of his time. This is were I met him. Before I met him, he used to bring this girl up to his cottage on the weekends and they used to date frequently.
One Night Stand
My partner had a one night stand behind my back but i didnt ask for this to happen i forgave her. now a couple of years later she done it again my head is gone i cant seem to trust her anytime at all what should i do — bart
Getting Out and Starting Over
I’ve got a concern w/ a old boyfriend who is getting out soon. He may want to start a relationship again. That’s not the problem. What he’s in for although the state says it’s fine to start a family the Department of Family Services says otherwise.
In Love In Jail
My fiancee is in jail, and we have never been together in any sort of physical way. The problem is we are both so insecure, but his is making me so sad because I feel there is no way for me to show him how true my love is. How can I show him?
The Trust Factor
My boyfriend continually accuses me of cheating on him, he won’t ever tell me that he loves me and rarely likes to cuddle. A year ago when we first got together and I didn’t know where we were headed after 2 weeks of dating I kissed another guy. I broke up with my boyfriend and confessed.
Seeking What Should Be Hers
I have a problem that has been detrimental to all my relationships. I was raised in a family that punished me for showing any sort of emotional need. I was supposed to be the one who supported everyone else, but I never received any kind of warmth or kindness in return.
Broken Vows
My husband and I have been married almost two years. He cheated on me so I cheated on him to feel I had some sort of revenge.
Parental Responsibility
I have a couple of issues. I’ve recently broke with my fiance. The major problem has been his parent. First of all I’m 47 and he’s 38. Both his parent have been divorced for a long time. The mother has been married five times, I guess because she is not an easy person to live with.
Just Friends?
My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for four years then he suddenly decided he wanted some space. Recently he said it was over altogether but I miss his company in the evenings. I would like him back but he wants to be friends. Is this possible after seeing someone for this amount of time and would it work? — Kymme
Abusive Married Man
I have been in a relationship for six years with this man, he says that his divorce is taking alot longer than it should. We have been fighting alot like every few minutes, everytime he calls me we have a fight. The reason we fight is that he does not make the time to talk or communicate in our relationship. He finally says that his ex-wife to be is so psychotic and I am beginning to be psychotic.
Cyber Romeo and Juliet
I have a friend whom I have known for one year srictly from over the internet and since we’ve met….our friendship has blossomed into a highly sexually attracted, physically, romantically, mentally ( intullectually), and spiritually love relationship….. but…..
When He’s Gone, He’s Gone
I have relationship problems. I’m 21 years old and believed to found the love love of my live. I have been seeing this guy that I really adore for a long time a little over a year and half. The only thing wrong about our relationship was that he lived so far away however we did mange to keep in touch and keep our relationship alive.
Midlife Man
My partner of 13 years walked out yesterday out of the blue. He has been working 18+ hour days for weeks, he says he’s a workaholic and loves his work so as he is “not happy” it must be my fault and if we split up now he might be happy in the future.
Conned
I spent the past two years living with my ex-boyfriend (in MY house). Early on, I talked with his friends hoping for insight regarding his character/M.O./basically: is he a good person? I was placated with a mixed bag of life experiences including his wife who abandoned him and their 3 babies. My heart went out to him and I truly felt he was a good person. We had fun, he made me laugh, we never fought. I thought we were in love.
Married With A Boyfriend
I have been in a marriage for 12 years and we have 2 children. I love him dearly but I met someone else a year ago. He happens to be a friend of the family. This guy treats me so good and my kids too.
Scared of Commitment
Hi there I have been dating a man for just over one year 14 months actually. Two weeks ago he dumped me, he said that he loved me very much and that i deserved someone better. I was so upset I wasn’t expecting this at all. He told me that he wanted to be alone and free for the rest of his life, I responded that he couldn’t really want to be alone forever.
Looking for Mr. Perfect
I am in my twenties and have dated many guys. At first I always seem to be interested and have fun with them, but after a couple of months I become bored. I don’t know if it is me or just the guys I date.
Can He Forgive, Can She Forget?
What should I do? My wife left my 3 kids, and I or I should say abandoned us, right after Christmas. She left straight from our home into the arms of an internet boyfriend.
Feeling Like A Child
Dear Queen of Hearts, I have a major and strange problem with myself in my relationship. I have always been a pretty emotional person. It all started with my childhood. I would cry all of the time.
Friends Or Lovers?
I’ve shared a special friendship with a man for 5 years now. We see life through the same eyes, and complete each other’s thoughts. We were both hurt in the past and terrified of commitment, but yet it seems special.
Does He Want To Get Married?
Dear Queenie, My boyfriend (23) and I (21) have been dating for eight years now. He is really great; he’s affectionate, respects me, my family and my religious beliefs. He even seems to respect the fact that I don’t want to have sex until I’m married even though he doesn’t agree.
Someone To Grow Old With
Hi Queenie im not sur eif you can help me but i have a dilemma that has been bugging me for about 6 months now. Well ill start from the begining. I am 22yrs old Female been with my boyfriend for 6 years nearly who is 31years old.
Dating A Busy Single Mom
I have been in a lovers relationship for about 3 months now. The relationship grew rapidly I think maybe too fast. We honestly love each other but know it can’t go any further right now.
Follow Her Heart?
Dearest Queenie, I waited for this guy “K” for a year and 9 months while he was doing his time in jail. He loves me and I knew he was the only guy I had so much feeling for, maybe it was my insecurities or maybe I was listening to my mother too much. She told me that it was best if I be with the one that loves me rather than the one I loved. That way I wouldn’t be mistreated.
Anything Worth Saving?
Hi, my wife left me and went to live with her parents a year and a half ago, we had only been married about two years when she left. I haven’t seen anyone else since she left, and she says neither has she.
He Needs Space
Me (21) and my boyfriend (23) have been dating for about 4 1/2 months.. we basically lived together and we were always together 24-7. he always talked about marrying me and having kids with me and all these wonderful things.
Just Friends
Hey, well i have this friend, and well he really likes me. but i have to him meny time’s that we r just friends and nothing more. But he dont seem to get that. he always ask’s me if i would kiss him. He gets really up set at me if he findes out that i went out on a date. He also tell’s me that the people i date r losers and that he dont like them, even thow he has never met him. or anybody i date.
In Love With Two Men
Dear Queenie I am in love with two men. Is that possible? I love my daughters father who has been locked up time and time again but this last time he has been gone for six months and I cheated.
Back Into The Dating Pool
Dear Queenie, I have been seperated for over two years know. I dated a little bit after my seperation and the last time would be about a year and a half ago but I was still kind of a mess then.
Youthful Sex
My question is this. I have been married now for many years, 30 years now. My husband and I met when I was 15 and he was 16 years old. We got married when I was just 19 and he was just 20.
Selfish Live-In
Dear Queenie, I have been dating my girlfriend for nearly a year now. Recently, she got herself into a bind and needed a place to stay, so I offered her to stay here for a few weeks.
Wait For Him To Be Ready?
My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 and a half years. It has been a long distance relationship for most of that time, although we have had periods where we’ve spent up to 5 months together.
Break Up By Email?
Ok here is goes.. I am dating this woman.. she is the niece of one of my best friends. She is 30… I do not share the same feelings for her as she does for me. I know no matter what this is going to hurt her…It has only been three months, slept together like 3 times and I only see her once in a while. I have no idea how to break it to her that I cannot be with her any more.
Recently Divorced
I am recently divorce w/ four children ages 19 years to 10 mos. which makes me almost 40 years old but I look 27. I have only been with one man my entire life. I had a one night affair with this guy from work 6 months ago.
How Serious Is He?
Hey, how’s it going? I came across your website in error this morning by clicking on the wrong thing; however, come to find, I found a wealth of information ~ some very entertaining and some which have provided a lot of insight in the story I wanted to share with you this morning. Here goes.
Christians And Sex
Dear Queenie, I was talking to a couple of my x boyfriends, they are now 12 and 16. They told me that they have had sex. They say they are christians, but I believe if they really were christians they wouldn’t be having premarital sex.
Six Year Relationship Over?
Dear Queenie, I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years, we had a great relationship, we love each other a lot. A month ago we were talking about both feeling that our relationship was not going anywhere. I told him that I knew what I wanted and he said that he didn’t know why after 6 years he didn’t have the feeling or the need of marrying me.
Who Should She Believe?
Dear Queenie, my husband and I have been married for two years, together for three and a half. We were together for about 5 months whenever we found out that i had gotten pregnant. We were very happy until then.
Does She Really Care?
Dear Queenie, my x girlfriend and i just started to talk again. I have a friend thats a girl and my x told me that I either be friends with that girl (whom she hates) or I become friends with my x and tell my friend that we cant be friends anymore.
Is He Committed Enough?
Dear Queenie, I have been with my boyfriend for 8 months now, we get on well, we don’t argue which is great we actually talk!! However I feel that he isn’t 100% committed.
Can She Get Him To Reconsider?
Dear Queenie, I met this guy (Tom) six years ago, very intense, we got on well, I loved everything about and same back. Tom is now 47 and I am 35. He is divorced (bitter) and 2 daughters.
Put Them Together And They’d Be The Perfect Man
Dear Queenie – I’m in a nerve-wracking situation. Two weeks ago, my boyfriend of nearly 3 years proposed to me with an over-the top engagement ring. It’s gorgeous, but I find it slightly irresponsible because he/we have no sort of savings.
Continue reading Put Them Together And They’d Be The Perfect Man
Wants To End Her Marriage
Dear Queenie, I have been married for 3 1/2 years. We have been together for 8 years. My husband is 34 and I am 28. When I got pregnant with our first child, I realized that I was about to be a parent and should start acting more responsible.