I’ve been with my boyfriend on and off for seven years now. We haven’t broken up in about two years but we do fight when days go by with out seeing each other. He works from 8:30 to 6P and I work from 5:30 to 12 or 1/2 in the morning (I’m a food server) I know that our hours have put a strain on the relationship and my sexual drive.
He’s always up and ready to go but by the time I get to his place I’m sweaty and tired. I’m just not aroused so he then insist on pleasuring him, and becomes upset when I don’t. He becomes very quite then of course I asked why he gets so mad at me and continues to explain how I sexually fustrate him and that he always thinks about it and that’s what stops him from asking me to marring him.
I feel so hurt and then become extremelly fustrated with myself. I then become overwhelm with all these thoughts of why don’t I aroused? What’s my problem? Why do I gag when I pleasure him orally? I enjoy sex. I never really had a problem in bed but since about 1 and half or two years ago that’s been his main focus.
I just don’t know what to do he makes me feel like a complete prude. Many times after his comments I just really over it, I want to go my own way. Either way I’m still in love with him. Any suggestion, please help. — Too close to being a prude
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Sex shouldn’t be forced, it should be a pleasure for both people involved, not one ‘pleasuring’ the other. I suspect there are some other issues involved here as well.
So he doesn’t want to consider marriage because you’re frustrating him? That’s a poor excuse. At least if the two of you were married you’d be living in the same house and that might cut some of the distance out of this relationship.
Somehow I’m not so sure he’s marriage material. You sure you want to stay with him? — Queenie