I have been married for 9 years and have been extremely unhappy for the last four years of our marriage. Recently I learned that a friend of mine is in love with me and I have feelings for him also. I have told my husband that I am not happy and that I would like to move on with my life but I am feeling torn between what to do.
Part of me feels like I am wanting to leave for the wrong reasons but the other part of me knows that I no longer love my husband. Do you have any advice on how I should sort out my feelings? My heart is telling me to move on and be happy but my mind is telling me to ignore all the problems and stay with my husband. Please help me.
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Are you in a relationship with this “friend” already? Does he say he’ll be waiting for you when you end your marriage? Or are you going to do the right thing and end your marriage, take some time to sort out your emotions, and then slowly ease into a new relationship?
Is there enough of a relationship left between you and your husband to try to put it back together with the help of professional counseling for the both of you? Would counseling help you determine just exactly what it is you need in a relationship?
Leaving your husband and expecting that this friend is going to be the answer to all your dreams may not work out the way you expect and you could find that you’ve thrown away a potentially good marriage for something that wasn’t all it seemed to be. — Queenie