I have been dating a married man for 2 years. He has left and moved in with me 2 times for a total of 6 months. He moved back because of the closeness and comfort he has and gets from his children. (age 16 and 14) He says he is leaving her for good this time in April and he choose that date so he can get his boys ready for the transition.
Now, I just dont know what to think anymore. I love him very much and he does me too. But, there are just bad thoughts that come into my head now. The what ifs, are my friends right, will he leave again??? I never had any of these questions in my head until the last few months.
He moved back in with her in May and says he sleeps on the couch or guest bed and that they have no emotional or physical relationship. I am the second affair he has had and he never left her during that one. I cannot help it, I just have a nature to believe what he says to me and how much he loves me.
Now, I am still holding on that he will leave her in April. Am I crazy now? I have had him followed and they found nothing. But I have also caught him in a couple little lies.
Please email me back. I need some sort of closure on either going ahead full speed with him or by myself. — Peggy
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Peggy, look at this man’s history. He cheats, he lies. What makes you think it’ll be different if he really does leave his wife this time? Incidentally, players like this will use every excuse possible to string another woman along — and you have to wonder what he thinks about your intelligence as he finds a new reason to keep you in place each time you start pushing him for some action.
He’s playing you as he’s played his wife and those other women he cheated with. Is this the kind of man you want to build your future around? Don’t you deserve better? It’s your choice. — Queenie