My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years. We broke up two years ago for about 4 months and then got back together. Anyway this summer we ended up getting jobs in different cities that are about an hour away from each other so we only really get to see each other on the weekends.
Anyway I have a guy friend who is gay and since he has been living in the same town as me we have been hanging out quite a bit. Anyway he introduced me to a straight friend of his who turns out to be really cool.
For about three months all three of us went out a lot, and I started to get a crush on this other guy. One night the new guy and I went out alone just as friends and we got along REALLY well. We started to become really good friends, but the other night we kissed.
I still love my boyfriend and do not want to break up with him, however at the same time I don’t know what to do about this new guy. I would still like to be friends with him but don’t know where our friendship will go after having kissed each other. My boyriend and I are also scheduled to take a trip to Haiwaii in January with nonrefundable tickets…. K
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K, if you DIDN’T have a trip to Hawaii coming up, would you know what to do? It sounds like you’re about ready to dump your boyfriend but you don’t want to lose that trip. Or maybe you’re thinking cheating is the easier way to see which guy you’d rather have as a boyfriend.
Let’s imagine that your boyfriend wrote to me asking essentially the same question: he met a girl he liked a lot, had kissed her and was interested in pursuing the relationship but loved you, and he had unrefundable tickets to Hawaii. What advice would you want me to give him?
Think about your answer to that one and then you’ll have the answer you’re looking for. — Queenie