I’ve been with my boyfriend for about a year & 1/2. He was separated when I first met him and his divorce has been ‘final’ for a few months now. Overall we have a Great relationship, he treats me like I want to be treated with Respect, as I do the same for him. I believe he does love me and shows me this thru his actions even though he has never said it.
He said he is NOT sure what to do with US as a couple… but since its been over a year he doesn’t think it should continue like this. He said he cares about me lots and wanted to take things to the next level by asking me to move-in but is too scared and confused right now.
He thanked me for never pressuring him. I told him I would move-in with him eventually but not now since his divorce is so new. I asked him if he knew if he was scared of the next steps or could he possibly be having doubts about his feeling for me?? He said he fell for me “hook-line and sinker” and it scares him and he is very confused. He said he did not want to end things with me and also does not want to see anyone else.
We talked a lot and financially he is doing ok but wanted a temporary roommate to help pay off the divorce bills. I am fine with this and I trust him even though he got a female roommate thru an agency… but she is leaving for sure in 4 months.
Personally I want to be with him, have not pressured him and have assured him that is what I want when we are both ready. I suggested he take sometime away from me. So now we are currently on “a Break” for 2 wks. This is tough for me because I’ve always had communication with him thru email/phone/in person.
Anyway its only been 3 days and I already miss him and wonder about his new roommate but I will not contact him cause I gave him my word. I do want to know where I stand but anyway I guess my question is… do you think I am doing the right thing by giving him Space or am I Crazy??? — Fara
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Fara, I, personally, think you’re doing the right thing by giving him space. After all, if he can’t be trusted now, you don’t want to waste any more time on him in the future.
Of course, I hope that since he has his space you are making good use of your space by spending time with other people — men included.
If this is a “meant to be” relationship, it will survive the space and the female roommate. Otherwise, you’ll find out very quickly that you’ve wasted enough time on him and move on. — Queenie