Queenie, I’m usually not in to these type of things, but I feel I need to get this off my chest and possibly get some advice. I have been dating my Girl friend for a little over a year and a half, I’m 27 and she is soon to be 31. We have had our share of struggles and I’m not a perfect person. We have had many problems with communication mostly my issue. We have worked to hash out much of those problems.
Recently, I have worked really hard to comunicate things that I feel or need to get off my cheast. However, it seems to end up in a fight or circles back to be my fault somehow. As I mentioned before I’m not perfect but it seem that no matter what, its always my fault, issue, or problem. I’m sure I sound dramatic but really it seems to happen that way more often than not. Early in our relationship things were GREAT. However, things seem to be getting worse. I have mixed feeling on weather or not we can make this work and salavage our relationship.
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Dating is the time that people determine whether or not they’re better together for the long term or better apart. Dating is a trial, a test of how well two people fit together. The first days, weeks, and even months of dating can be staggeringly wonderful and too many people make a lifetime commitment before time shows the “fit” isn’t right.
If miscommunication, arguments, and always being wrong is the life you want for yourself, stay in this relationship. If you want something better, tell her in clear language why it’s not working out for you. Don’t fumble around, be direct: “I’m unhappy in this relationship. I’m tired of always being the bad guy, of the arguments we have, the way this is turning out. I thought we had the chance of a lifetime together but I don’t think so anymore.”
She may cry and say she’ll try harder or she may make it all your fault. You may feel sorry for her and stay a while longer. When you know, without a doubt, that there’s no potential for change, then walk away and don’t look back. Just my thoughts ~ Queenie