I have been separated from ex-husband for 7 yrs and in current relationship for 4 years. My current partner does not have a colourful past, and can be at times quite controlling, especially when it comes to discipline for my son. (from my ex-husband).
My current partner is facing court shortly for a sexual violation charge against his neice, but I do feel that his is innocent. My ex-husband is applying for full custody of my son because of this allegation.
Accordingly, my current partner has moved out to avoid this happening. But in doing that we have drifted apart, and I only see him when he wants sex. He tells me he loves me, and wants to move back after the court trial, but the more we are apart, the more he wants his space.
Do I just forget this man and re-start my life once again – or do I fight for him and support him with the court case. We have been through hell over the last year because of all of this and I do really love him, but am very tired of the stress. Please – what do I do? — Annie
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Annie, I think he’s done the right thing in moving out until his trial is over so that your ex-husband doesn’t have grounds to take full custody of your son. Apparently he is enjoying freedom from a full-time relationship and also enjoying the extra perk of having sex with you. So far, sounds like he’s got the better part of the deal.
You need to take some time for yourself — get your own space, decide what YOU want in a relationship. Maybe this man isn’t the best man for you and you can take this opportunity to find out if you’d be better off ending the relationship completely until the both of you have had enough time to set priorities for yourselves.
It’s not just his game, it’s yours, too. You have choices, make the ones that are best for you. — Queenie