I’ve been dating a guy for a year and we have been living together for 6 months now. He is great, we have lots in common. I’ve been feeling a little worried lately that he has lost interest in me. He tries to make me feel like he wants me to stay around, but then when he talks with his friends his attitude changes. One day he says he wants to marry me, then I over hear him telling his friend that I keep pushing him to get married.
Well his best friend just got engaged and sent an email of the ring he bought, and in the email he mentioned to my boyfriend that maybe he shouldnt show me the pictures, because I might get jealous. In the back of my head I keep feeling that I’m looking like the clueless one. But he has never told me different.
I am just really confused, will he ever stop being so immature, and just tell me what he wants out of this relationship. Should I mention I moved to be with him, because he wanted me too! Now Im stuck in a dead end job, as his is getting better. WHAT CAN I DO??? — Jaxs
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Jaxs, getting married does not change the way a guy (or girl) acts, it actually only makes immaturity seem that much more immature and all the other annoyances become intolerable.
I think you have been trying too hard to tie this guy into a lifetime commitment. You shouldn’t have moved in with him, nor should you have moved closer and taken a dead-end job just to be with him. See how the resentment is building already? You need to be a whole person unto yourself building a terrific career instead you’re waiting for this guy to ask you to marry him and getting more and more frustrated when he doesn’t.
You haven’t been together long enough to commit for a lifetime. There are some couples that meet and know instantly that they’re “meant” for each other. This isn’t the two of you or it would have happened already. Maybe you do have the type of relationship that will continue through into marriage but the way it’s going right now, the resentment is building and it just may result in a breakup.
I’d suggest that you move out and move back to your former location and get a job that excites you and provides you with a future. Develop your own life independently of his. Guys run from clinging, desperate women. They run toward independent, lives of their own, women. Just my thoughts. — Queenie