I’ve been in a relationship for over a yr and I thought everything was great, we were always honest with each other, shared common intrests and goals and were in love.
When we met he told me that he was divorced after a horible relationship in which his wife cheated on him and he never talked about and I never asked as I knew it to be painful. Well 3 months ago I found out by accident that he is not divorced but has been seperated the whole time we were together…he lied to me for over a year.
Now I find myself doubting everything that he says, we talked about marriage all the while he knew he was and still is married, he always gets jealous when other men are around and all of this makes me wonder is it because of his past relationship or because he’s doing something?
He stated he was taking steps to get divorced but as of yet he’s still married and I haven’t seen any evidence that he’s even begun the process..he even has his (wife)’s number programed into his phone so the way I see it if it was so horrible a relationship and she hurt him so badly why the hell have it programed in and give me the excuse that they need to communicate for a divorce that hasn’t even begun yet?
I’m very confused about this whole situation and just don’t know what to do or even say at this point…any advice?
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If it were me, I’d say “Seeya!” and let this married man tell his stories to someone else. When someone is in the process of divorce they are still married but at least making some progress toward ending the marriage. He hasn’t even made an effort to end the marriage.
You are dating a married man. An untrustworthy one at that. You said that you were in a relationship in which you were both honest with each other. This isn’t true.
People who cheat will say whatever they need to in order to get their lover to accept being in a relationship that’s less than acceptable. If you want to limit your love life to a man with a wife, he’s your guy.
Don’t you deserve better? And if you were to finally be his “one and only” could you really trust him not to do the same thing to you with someone else? — Queenie