Dear Queenie, part two of my story: I broke things off with my guy, and have told him I don’t want to see him as it cuts me up, but, one day we can be friends again. However, he won’t stop texting me and he will come over and try and hug me and kiss me on the cheek-it makes me feel really uncomfortable and I try and back away. I am sure he is aware of this.
Why is he doing this? Trying to work his way back into my life as a couple again? Also, another thing that is getting to me is that he is ultra friendly with my family, buying them gifts, texting them etc.
I don’t know what to do now. All I know is that I cannot continue having a relationship with this man who has used and hurt me time and time again and I just want to be friends eventually.
I have made things very clear! He is being disrespectful of my feelings and doesn’t seem at all hurt or down about our break-up! Help! I am a bit confused and cut up!
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Well, that was quick! Yesterday you were feeling “used and cheated” and today you’re trying to get him to leave you alone.
Why is he doing these things? Beats me. Maybe he just likes the challenge you’ve presented him. You obviously haven’t made things clear enough. If you told him you eventually want to be friends with him, he sees the door open to resuming the relationship as it has been for the past 18 months. He’s just trying to find the right way to get back inside. Pun intended.
You allow him to disrespect you. If you seriously want him to stop, tell him if he doesn’t leave you and your family alone, you will contact his wife. Or, if you are that desperate for friends, tell him to come back when he’s divorced. Only do it if you’re actually capable of following through. — Queenie