Confused and don’t know what to do. I am a 23 year old with a 25 year old boyfriend who is constantly accusing me of cheating on him. Since we have been together I have never cheated on him.
If we go out in a public place and a male happens to look over towards me or us he goes ballistic. He starts calling me names and accusing me of cheating or wanting to cheat. The simple fact is that I Love him and would never cheat on him. I admit that in past relationships I have cheated, which he is aware of. We are always together and if we are not together we are always on the phone. What should I do? AMJ
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I was going to respond one way based upon the first part of your email but after reading that you have cheated in past relationships and he’s aware of this, I can now understand why he’s acting the way he is. He doesn’t have total trust in you. He may feel that given enough time, you’ll revert to form and cheat on him just as you did on the men before him.
You don’t say how long the two of you have been dating or how long you were involved in your other relationships or even if you cheated WITH him while you were involved with someone else. If you and he were involved before you left your prior relationship there may be no way to assure him that the love you have for him is different and that you will be faithful in this relationship.
There is no easy answer for your situation. If he’s too difficult to deal with because of the jealousy and anger then tell him that you can’t stay in the relationship because his actions are hurting you too much and then leave — BEFORE getting involved with someone else. OR, if you have the patience and can take the heat he’s giving, wait it out and maybe over time he will come to trust you. — Queenie