I have had a best friend for 10 years. We are both divorced. She is straight and I am not. (both female) She has dated a few men over the years. I have not dated much. We talk on the phone everyday and hang out together on the weekends. I think I have deeper feelings for her than she has for me. I don’t know if she represses her feelings.
We are very close. I give her massages…back, legs, feet..but nothing more. I have kinda tried more before but she wouldn’t let me go any further. I don’t want to tell her how I feel because I don’t want to lose what we already have.
How do I seperate my feeling of desire and friendship for her? How can I know how she feels about me without asking her? Why would she let me give her such a sensual massage if she didn’t want more? — Julie
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Julie, if you’ve been best friends for the past 10 years, I have to presume that she knows your sexual preferences but chooses not to talk about them.
It’s time to talk. Tell her how you feel about her. Ask her how she feels about you. Communication is important in any type of relationship. You need to know if she feels the same way you do and is too shy to admit it, if she knows but isn’t interested in a more intimate relationship with you, or if she truly does not know and has no feelings other than friendship for you.
Good luck. — Queenie