Hi, I’m 28 years old and been living with a 34 year man for 2 years. We moved in together 2mnths after he separated from his unfaithfull wife of 11 years. He has 2 very young children wich I love deeply as they do me.
His family and I live next to each other in the home he has always owned since he was married. They haven’t spoken to me in a year because his mother was always at our home telling me what I should do and constantly talking about his ex and her life now (they both get along now even though they couldn’t stand each other and fought all the time when her son and the ex were married).
I have never been married and have no children. This has been the most difficult relationship in my life, but with much sacrafice, tearfull nights, and love I’ve managed to come this far.
He has done his best to change his overbarring mother (at least to the point that she won’t cause disturbance in our lives) and put in her place his horrible dominating wife (wich uses his kids as a control method).
Now things have quiet down but every time his ex has fight with her boyfriend she uses an excuse to bother and I feel he never protects our peace and harmony.
I love this man, he is desent and more than anyone i’ve been with. I given this relationship all i can give. I feel frustated, lonely, depresed and affraid to walk away from all I already worked so hard to achive.
I feel that I should leave this man and start my life over. I just don’t know how or if I should stay and keep fighting for the place I struggled so hard and sacrificed so much of me to make a beautiful home like the one I grew up in. Please help me? — Liz
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Liz, when you date a man with a family you cannot expect him to wipe out that part of his life and put you as his sole priority. He has obligations to his children, his parents, and the mother of his children. This is a lot of baggage for a single woman to deal with and you may find it easier to walk away than to have to share your life with so many other people.
It’s your call. Would your life be better with him and all of his “baggage” or without him? Only you know what will make you the happiest. — Queenie