I am a 31 year old woman that feels neglected. Emotionally and physically. My husband and I have only been married for 2 years. We have no sex life. He is always tired. I can understand that. His job is not the easiest in the world.
He is always looking at web site porn. I have expressed myself several times on how that makes me feel, but he just doesn’t seem to care. His response is, “At least I am not cheating on you.”
When he is looking at the porn and I walk into the room, he minimizes so I can’t see. He is just not fast enough at doing so. I still see that crap. I sometimes feel that if he is not making love to me, than to whom. He questions me all the time about phone numbers on the caller ID. I’m sure you know what they about that. The guilty always accuse.
Another reason I am worried is that he sometimes has to go out and do promotions for his job. He never ask me to go along. The other guys girlfriends or wives go, why should I be any different.
Also, I have recently lost my job. So I have been staying home with our 19mo. old, to which he hardly has anything to do with. The job market right now stinks. I have not been able to find a job. He says I am lazy. I do all the work in the house, take care of our child, and have his dinner ready when he gets home every night.
Any woman knows that taking care of a house and family is not an easy task to do. But he doesn’t see that. He sits infront of that computer for HOURS. What to do??? I love my husband, but I can’t take the lonliness any more. HELP!!! — Sickandtired
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I wonder why men and women who are addicted to online sex feel they aren’t cheating on their real life spouse. They may not be having body contact sex with another person but they are depriving their spouse of intimacy and, in my opinion, that’s a form of cheating.
There are a lot of issues that need to be dealt with in your marriage, too many for me to give you a few simple words to make them better other than I think the two of you need to talk and listen to each other, and maybe the only way that will happen is through couples counseling.
Right now, this isn’t a very good marriage. It needs a lot of work and that requires the both of you wanting to make it work. — Queenie