Hi Queenie im not sur eif you can help me but i have a dilemma that has been bugging me for about 6 months now. Well ill start from the begining. I am 22yrs old Female been with my boyfriend for 6 years nearly who is 31years old.
He has a great body and is good looking, but he never buys me things takes me anywhere and i have noticed recently we never really talk unless he is unhappy with some thing i have done.
The real dilemma is that i play soccer for a female team and i am constantly thinking about my soccer coach he is 28 years old he has a girlfriend of only a year he is not better looking or got a better physique but i just want to be with him constantly and i try to find reasons to talk to him and phone him or text him. I constantly think about him at work and when i am with my boyfriend and nearly every night i dream about him whilst asleep and i always wake up happy.
I know he feels something for me but not sure what. He always asks to talk to me on my own and asks about me and my boyfriends relationship and trys to find info on how we are getting on.
I am confused on what to do. im afraid to leave my boyfriend as i am scared that i will not find some one to grow old with. Please help me i cant go to my mom because my soccer coach is her best mates younger brother.
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Well, if my math is fairly accurate, you started dating this guy when you were 15 or 16 and he was 24 or 25. Now, six years later, the romance is gone from the relationship with your boyfriend and you’re having romantic thoughts about your friendly soccer coach.
From what you have written, you’d rather hang on to a boyfriend with “a great body” for future “security” instead of breaking up with him and taking a chance that your soccer coach or someone you haven’t met yet would make you happier.
It doesn’t matter who you fall in love with, now or later. You will never be guaranteed of “some one to grow old with.” Life doesn’t work that way. You take your chances and maybe you’ll be lucky enough to meet and fall in love with someone who will love you the same.
Oh, and your soccer coach? He has a girlfriend. If he’s flirting with you (which he may or may not be), then he’s cheating on her. And you have a boyfriend. Regardless of how your relationship is at the moment, if you’re looking to connect with someone else, get out of this relationship first.
That’s what I think. — Queenie