Hi Queenie, I am not sure mine qualifies as a problem. I work in a huge company and met a colleague at one of the training programs. Over the next few months, the two of us went from being colleagues to good friends and today, he is one of my closest friends.
I realise, as many other women, that I want more than friendship from this person- he is a perfect mix of smarts, looks, laughs and emotions. He has never let me down and knows how to treat me through my many moods!
I get the feeling he might want some more too but I also know he hates a girl making the move and is unlikely to make one himself. How can I be sure he wants to be more than friends and how can I change things to making the dream come true?
Please do advise! I feel like a teenage all over again but I also know that if the two of us get together, there is no risk of hurting each other.
Many thanks, K
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If neither of you makes the first move, how could this possibly turn into anything more? This is a situation where someone has to be brave, and if he won’t make the move, that someone will have to be you.
Does the company the two of you work for frown on dating among colleagues? If so, then that would be a consideration for keeping your relationship at a friendship level.
If there are no good reasons for not moving your relationship to something more (such as a wife or a significant other at home), then you need to pick a time to tell him how you feel. I’d suggest the sooner the better before someone else has a chance to tell him how she feels about him. — Queenie