My husband and I have been married for two years, in July he confessed to having sex w/ a lady he works with. I told him I loved him and that I want to work it out.
We have been going to marriage counseling. Then a last week (oct) I found porn on my computer. I had to get him angry to even tell my the truth. Do you think I should just leave him to see if that makes him think twice about doing ANYTHING again. Or would it be best to just leave and never turn back? — Heartbroken
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If you want to end the marriage, do it. If you want to repair your marriage, stay in marriage counseling and discuss your expectations and needs. Either his are compatible with yours or they’re not. Right now, his are not.
Don’t try the “leaving to get his attention” ploy because it will backfire. You leave, he takes on the challenge of getting you back, he makes the kind of promises you want from him, and he learns what it takes to get you to come back after he has screwed up. It’s a bad game with no winners.
You can want to make your marriage work but it takes two. — Queenie