Dear Queenie, we’ve been married for three weeks and I just found out he is calling 1-800 sex lines. He doen’t know that I know. Is this cheating?
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Cheating usually means someone is having actual sex with someone other than their significant other. While he may be “getting off” when he listens to the women on these sex lines, he isn’t actually in bed with them regardless of what he’s imagining at the time.
Was he calling these sex lines prior to your marriage? Is this a long-term habit that he’s having difficulty breaking? Why not tell him that you found out about these calls and you’re concerned that he’s calling strangers for the passion he should save for your bedroom. Don’t accuse him of cheating, just ask him why he needs to call someone when you’re right there. — Queenie