Hello. I am recently seperated with a four year old child. My husband and I have been together for seven years. I love him very much but we have differant religous and moral views. He doesn’t seem to want to keep a REAL job and I stress out over all the household bills and upkeep while working a full time job.
I guess my question would have to be What should I tell him to fix or to do? I am really sorry for wasting your time with such a stupid queston but I am scared that I will be making the wrong decision. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I have read the other responses/questions but I didn’t feel like any of them connected with me. You don’t have to waste your time putting it in your column, but a e-mail would do fine. I am not a very hard person to please. Thank you very much and have a great day! — Brandi
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Brandi, it’s not a stupid question and if you haven’t seen a similar question here then it needs to be posted so don’t apologize because you’re not wasting my time.
Have the two of you been able to sit down and talk about your expectations for each other? What does he want, need and expect from you? What do you want, need and expect from him? Just how different are your religious and moral views? Can there be compromise? Is there something here that would make life together too difficult?
If the two of you love each other enough to find ways to meet each of your needs then maybe the two of you can save this marriage. It will take both of you working toward the same goal to make it work, not just one of you.
If it were me, I wouldn’t leave a potentially good marriage without looking at all the options. And I wouldn’t stay any longer than necessary in a marriage that had no chance for survival.
Good luck to you. — Queenie