I have been in a relationship with a business acquantance for 7 months. We speak daily about work and life. Enjoy having lunch with each other, and we make crazy love once a week. I believe we have mutual deep feelings for each other. Problem, I am 9 years older than him. He really wants a family. I am past that, with grown children.
After we have wonderful loving sex, i feel him pulling back to protect himself from feeling to much for me. I don’t know what i should do. I sometimes feel as though i should leave this wonderful relationship so he can find what he really wants. Any advice?
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How do you know what he really wants? And, if he really wants a family, why couldn’t he continue the lunches and crazy love with you while looking for someone to marry and bear his children? He’s an adult, he has free will, he could end these afternoon delights if they were causing him distress. They aren’t occupying his entire free time (nights and weekends, for example) are they?
What if you “do the right thing,” end the relationship so he can find his “true love,” and he just moves to the next willing female and continues on with weekly lunch and sex?
I don’t see the age difference as a problem as much as what you may be reading into the relationship. Sneaking around to have hot sex may be exactly what he really wants. What do you want? If what you’ve got is what you want, why give it up unless you need more? You’ve already decided the relationship won’t work long term due to the child factor. JMHO – Queenie