Queenie, my fiance and I had been together for 10 years and were due to get married in June 06. However, my partner turned round a few weeks before our wedding and confessed that he didn’t want to go through with it. He wasn’t sure whether he loved me or not.
My whole world just fell apart! I am absolutely devastated. We were living together and thought we were happy and in love? So why did he tell me just a few weeks before that he didn’t love me!
I am so hurt and angry. He said it wasn’t pre-wedding jitters! I am now living elsewhere, temporarily with a friend, as I didn’t feel we could ever patch things up and I could not bear to see his face.
I have taken compassionate leave from work. I feel so depressed. I want to wake up from this nightmare. I really miss him and wonder if I will ever get over this rejection. Did I do the right thing walking out?
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My best guess is that he didn’t want to pay for something he had been getting for nothing for all those years. Apparently he considers marriage too high a price to continue the relationship he had with you.
That doesn’t mean he might not change his mind but, if I were you, I wouldn’t waste any more time wondering why he got cold feet. Ten years should be enough time for anyone to figure out whether or not they love someone enough to marry them. — Queenie