I’m hoping i can get some advice about a situation with a friend. I graduated from college a while ago and I left some friends behind well after years had past and life had been good to me I reconnected with my best friend from my college days. She and I are in two different states, and while it is nice to speak to her she calls everyday with a new situation.
I joined the military after school and she was a military brat (not in the military) and she is always offering advice on how she would handle my situation if she was me. Then I drove half way across the country to visit my family (after a relative past away) she expected me to drive her around the city to see some other friends from college, because I had the new car.
And now that I am with my family I feel like I am a slave to my caller id and watching the street to make sure she’s not coming to my families house. I also feel that she takes my kindness for granted, this feels entirely like a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship going bad.
So how do I tell her that she is basically getting on my nerve at this point? I don’t like the way she talks at me and she is always inviting other people to my house, in my car and wanting to use my cell phone so that she will not waste her minutes.
While we have memories from back in the day I really only need to hear from her once a month. That’s good enough for me, not every day. How do I handle this?
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You stiffen your spine and tell her she’s taking advantage of your good nature and your friendship and to back off. She’s going to do whatever you allow her to do. Open your mouth, tell her to get her own life and stop hogging yours. I trust you can come up with something more pleasant but you need to grow a backbone and take control of your life. — Queenie