Dear queenie, my boyfriend and i have been seeing each other for almost 5 years, lately though i’ve started to wonder what it would be like if i was single. we get on very well, have our arguments, but generally get on well.
Theres never been any major problems, he talks of getting married and children, sometimes i agree with him and am happy to think about being with him forever, and then at other times i wish i was on my own.
I’m only 22, he is 23. im scared that if i leave i’ll regret it and he may move on, but i might regret staying. he doesnt have any idea how im feeling. we have been living together for the past 3 years.
its mainly his attitudes that annoy me the most, and that i feel taken for granted. he will spend his money with his friends on nights out and never has any to do any thing with me, i cant remenber the last romantic thing he’s done, or when we did anythig fun together.
i’ve tried explaining things to him but he thinks i’m just making a big deal, and leaves me alone to get over my “mood” as he puts it. what should i do? stay or leave?
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You’ve been with him since you were 17 so I seriously doubt you’ve had an opportunity to sample life on your own. Looking at what you have now is like looking into a mirror and seeing your future with him. Can you live a lifetime this way? Do you really want to be left alone each time you have a “mood” that needs to be resolved?
If you want more I think you’ll have to leave and take your chances. What do you think? It won’t be easy but neither would a lifetime of living like this. At least that’s my opinion. You have to do what makes you happiest. — Queenie