Dear Queenie, I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years, we had a great relationship, we love each other a lot. A month ago we were talking about both feeling that our relationship was not going anywhere. I told him that I knew what I wanted and he said that he didn’t know why after 6 years he didn’t have the feeling or the need of marrying me.
We work together, we have to see each other everyday, we have cried together so many times, we have met and I have ask him to get back together but he doen’t want to unless he has the feeling to marry me.
I know he loves me… Its been a month I’m scare of our relationship to go cold… I really love him, his friends have been talking to him and they all tell me that he is always crying when he talks about me. What should I do?
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Six years is a long time to be together. Working together, seeing each other every day… did you ever get a chance to have space? To be apart long enough to actually “miss” each other? Did you start taking each other for granted?
Even the “best” relationships aren’t guaranteed to last forever. Look at the recent breakup of Hollywood’s “Golden Couple,” Brad and Jennifer. They have everything going for them and yet, after around six years of being together, they’ve split.
Personally, if this situation was one I was facing, I’d consider finding a job elsewhere so that I didn’t have to see him every day and so that he wouldn’t see me every day. I’d let him miss me. If I couldn’t find or didn’t want to get another job I’d at least start some casual dating and put the word out to everyone that I was now “available” and this season’s new “party girl.”
No, I wouldn’t sleep around or try to find an instant replacement for him but I’d certainly hope that he’d hear that I wasn’t waiting by the phone for his call. And I wouldn’t be afraid to take a hot new date somewhere he might be hanging out.
After six years, it’s time for “make a commitment or walk away.” At least, that’s my opinion. — Queenie