Hi. i’m a 22 yr old guy. ive been with my girlfreind for 2 years and we’ve got on great. she’s just got back from a 2 week-long trip (i missd her alot, the longest we’ve been apart) and ignores me and is just generally off towards me.
She says that she doesnt feel the same and she doesnt feel “special” (?!) anymore. so now we’re on a short break to see if time apart changes things. the 2 weeks she was away was enough for me, but i have a bad feeling this isnt gonna help her.
What can i do to “re-kindle” the relationship? personally i feel that after 2 years we have simply became more relaxed + comfortable with each other, in my opinion that that bad a thing. is she living in a dream world or is something wrong? and if so what do i do? yours despairingly, Phil
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Phil, did you become more relaxed and comfortable around her or did you start taking her for granted? I doubt she’s living in a dream world but she may enjoy some of the niceties of new relationships that get lost when a partner feels they don’t have to do anything to keep the “spark” going.
Think back to how your relationship began. Make a list of what you used to do then for fun and make a list of what you and she have been doing in the past six months to a year. I bet the romance is gone.
If she still loves you, turn back into the guy you were two years ago and see if that rekindles some feelings in her. Flowers are nice. So are sweet cards and silly little gifts. Good luck. — Queenie