Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a while now and never before did his pass bother me. I am his first girlfriend ever. which i know is pretty special u really cant hardly find a man who hasnt been with alot girls now days. but he did sleep with one girl before me. they went on like four dates and after a drunken night they did it it was more her pressuring then him.
He said he did it because he knew alot of guys that wanted to so he did it more for bragging but its wierd cause that just didnt seem like him to loose it after waiting 18yrs. the next day she told him she just wanted to be friends with him this was over a year before we even meet so i know this probably shouldnt even bother me especially since i had a serious realtionship with someone before him whom i did have sex with.
My bf now never talks about her we talked about it when we first got together just to get to know each other. so i know thats not it its not because of that. we are engaged and going to get married and all of sudden i just keep thinking about him with that girl.
Even though i dont ever think about him cheating cause i know thats not the issue i just hate to think of him being with someone else, since i was his first for everything else. please help me just leave this in the past i just dont think it should bug me since he wasnt my first either. help please — Sandy
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Sandy, it’s usually the guy who obsesses about all the men his gf has been with so you’re lucky he isn’t upset about your past. Do you need an excuse to break your engagement? Is that why you’re picking on the one thing that he has absolutely no control over changing?
Drop your obsession NOW before it becomes the fatal flaw that is too big to overcome. This is no big deal! So what? He has much more reason to feel bad about your past sexual experience.
If you can’t get past this you probably need to call off the engagement and let this guy find someone who isn’t going to hold a natural occurrence in his history against him for the rest of his life. You will, however, have one tough time finding yourself a ‘virgin’ bf although no doubt if you look hard enough you might.
I’ve always felt that virginity shouldn’t be one-sided. If you require virginity you should also be able to give it. — Queenie