Dear Queenie, I’m really confused!! I’ve been dating a man for a year now, who is supposed to be getting a divorce. It’s going on two years now. When I ask him about it, he gets frustrated and insists that because of the children, taxes, etc… that it is taking longer. Yet he says he does not know what’s curranty going on and can not tell me when it will be final.
What really bothers me is, I have caught him in lies about his ex. He says they are just really “good friends” and he still talks to her daily and sometimes, he goes to dinner and other family/social functions with her. He says he is just trying to remain civil for the kids. He has admitted to some things and says I dont have anything to worry about (he loves me, and it is over with the wife) but I have really funny feelings and feel he’s not being completely honest. I have even threatened to call her — cause I dont even know she knows I exist. He becomes very angry with this, and says if I want to hurt people, go ahead! But I really need to know. I’ve been hurt before and I just got to be sure, either way.
Is their a way to find information regarding their divorce process? Should I call her? How long can a divorce take? We only see each other once, maybe twice a week. Usually just for the evening. He’s gone before the sun rises. He says he has to work alot. I’m really scared, have I fallen in love with a lier/cheater? Please help me. I dont wanna be hurt, but I am ready for the worst! I just have to know the truth about this man I love! — Lost in California
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The truth about this man? The truth is 1) he is married, 2) he is cheating on his wife, 3) he probably doesn’t plan on getting a divorce, 4) you’re probably not the first person he’s ever cheated with, 5) you probably won’t be the last.
He’s playing you and so far you’re buying all of his excuses. Isn’t it time you got smart and kicked him to the curb? — Queenie