Queenie, i have read all your posts. This is my life. I am now 44. Been married for 15 years with 2 kids now 19 and 17. A marriage everybody envied until it was over. Two years before my divorce i fell deeply in love with a man 9 years younger and unhappily married. He fell deeply in love with me and persude me intensly.
He married his wife because of pregnancy and was resentful with her because he felt trapped into marrying her. From the beginning he was having affairs.. He is a well off hard worker and she is from a poor family. As soon as we met his wife said she wanted a second baby.
He really wanted out of his marriage but i was not ready to leave my husband. He promised me the moon and stars and as the relationship got intense, there was no way out for me. I confronted my husband and asked for divorce. He picked up the children and left without me knowing, closed all bank accounts, took my car, tried to force me out of our home through court orders, filed for divorce and within 3 months he was already in a relationship with a woman who got pregnant immediatly and they were married within a year. He wouldnt let me see the children. He poisened them against me saying I was a whore etc.
I was not working during then as he owned a hotel and was making good money for the family. i was dedicated to the kids and our good life style. It all turned upside down. My married boyfriend never managed to get out of this marriage as his young wife was very insecure. She told him to continue the relationship with me but begged him to never leave her or she would die. He made many attempts but things actually got worse to the point that his wife was having breakdowns and could not look after thier young children.
As things got bad I had to beg him to stay with her because there would be no way we could be together with such circumstances. I am deeply hurt as my son is still not speaking to me and refuses to see me. My relationship with my dayghter is good but she is at uni now. i am absulutly devastated at how all this has turned around. I had it all and now left with nothing. Only dignity, some self love and unbearable pain which i am working on as well as tryng to fix me and my life. please i would appreciate some advise.
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You made bad choices and are now paying the price. I wish I had some advice that would make all the pain go away but I don’t.
You say you’re trying “to fix me and my life.” If I was going to give any advice, it would be just that. Keep going. There’s no way it will be easy nor should it be. This is a life lesson you don’t want to repeat. ~ Queenie