I’m 46. My wife (37) divorced me last year after 5 years. Second marriage for both. I had adopted her daughter and we had a child together – they’re 8 and 5. Reason: just didn’t want to be married; wanted her own space, etc…
She bought a house nearby, and we see each other almost everyday as kids are exchanged (kids are handling everything fine so far). We hug and kiss hello and goodbye, hold hands and she even sleeps over once in a while – although we haven’t had sex since she left.
We do family outings and holidays together and she’s suggesting we can still do family vacations – but she shows no interest in being intimate or getting back together.
I don’t see this relationship working long term. I don’t want to spend my life being ‘friends’ with someone I love and once was married to. Am I weird?
Does her vision of reality work for people. The kids seem comfortable, but is this giving them a warped sense of reality? Should I give her a choice of working at ‘US’ or starting to put some polite distance between us? — Arty
……………………………
Arty, I think your last question was the answer you’re looking for. No, you’re not weird. And, no, her reality isn’t one that works for most people. — Queenie