Is Midlife Crisis the Cause?
I am a 32 year old professional that has been married for five years. My wife is a couple of years older than I am. Lately our relationship has been very rocky. My wife tells me that it is not me and that she loves me and I provide her with everything that she could want, but she is unsure of herself in regards to is she making the right decision, was she suppose to do something else with her life and so on.
She manages her parents business which causes alot of stress and conflict, and often she expresses that she is overwhelmed by it all, but will not quit due to her loyalty to her parents, also her job is not one she picked rather it was expected. She would rather do something else that she likes, but feels that she can’t.
Now it has come to the point where she is questioning everything about herself including our relationship. She has pushed everyone out of her life including friends and family so that she can self evaluate. I am at a loss and do not know what I should do. Is my wife going through a mid-life crisis? Please help. — Jack
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Jack, it certainly sounds as though she has reached the time in her life where she is having an inner battle over ‘doing what’s right’ as far as her current responsibilities versus ‘doing what’s best for her.’ Middle age can be a time of extreme introspection particularly for someone who has never allowed themself to pursue their own dreams.
Your wife is right. This isn’t about you, it’s all about her. What you can do to get some more insight is visit www.midlifeclub.com and see how other husbands are handling the same situations.
You are definitely not alone, and neither is your wife. She, too, could benefit by visiting The Midlife Club. — Queenie