My live in boyfriend of 4 years has just dumped me. This time I think it’s for good. We have been together for alot of memories vacations, birthdays, holidays eveything. We made plans on getting married having children together. We have broken up before but I always got him back after about 1 week or so. Does’nt look like it this time. I sit at home all day all nite, in our apartment with all our things and Im getting desperate.
We work together to so it’s like I see him and he pretends as if he does’nt know me. He was like this the last time we broke up but I feel as though he really is tired of what our once loving relationship has become. I know he thinks it’s not possible for me to change, but I do know he loves me.
His friends told me they tried to take him out the other nite, but he said he just wanted to be alone to think. Now for that’s absoletely unheard of, he’ll go out any chance he gets.
He also mved out this week and i begged him not to butt he did. Then when I came home he had left things there. Now if you really want me to move on you should’ve taken everthing right? On top of that he hasn’nt given me my keys back AND from his friends I hear he still hasn’t taken my picture out of his car.
What do I do? How can I make him see that I want to change? How can make understand how lucky We are to have love? PLEASE ANY ADVICE MUCHLY APPRECIATED!!! — Confused
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You say that you know he think’s it’s impossible for you to change, but you don’t say what it is you’re doing that needs to be changed. Are you cheating on him, saying you won’t, and then cheating again? Are you whining, spending too much money, don’t want sex, partying too much, drinking too much, doing drugs?
I don’t need or want to know what your problem is that he apparently doesn’t want to deal with or feels strongly enough to end the relationship. Quite frankly, if you’ve broken up several times, and the “problem” still exists, he’s going to need more than just your word that you want to change to believe you. He’s going to need to actually SEE that you’ve changed and maybe — no guarantees — maybe that might give him incentive to give you one more chance.
Words are cheap, action is where it’s at. — Queenie