I have a boyfriend almost fiance of one and a half years. we lived together for the first year of the relationship and we started having problems so I moved out. Since I have moved out we have agreed to see each other on the weekends.
Well I thought since we are only seeing each other on the weekends that the relationship would grow and it would make us close again and there for a while it did because he even asked me about getting married a year or two from now and is even giving me an engagement ring come chritmas.
But the thing about is since all this about marriage has come up hes backed off from me, he doesn’t call me like he use to and he acts like he doesn’t care whether he spends time with me or not. He still tells me that he loves and all but I have to wonder wht is going on with him because he won’t tell me anything. The whole idea of marriage was his idea but now he’s acting like he is. So please give me some advice on what you think I should do. Desperate for advice. — Chris
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Chris, unless the problems that caused you to move out have been fixed, your relationship is no better now than it was then. You lived together and things weren’t great, you split up and when you were seeing each other only on the weekends it was better, but now that there’s a promise of commitment things are rocky again.
Marriage means you’ll be together 24/7 and legally bound together. Do you think you and he could handle it? I don’t.
I think you need to back off and stop trying to turn this into a serious committed relationship. Neither of you is ready so why tie yourselves into something that isn’t making you happy? Date others and keep your options open. Love is supposed to be joyful, not make you sad and unhappy.
Just my opinion. — Queenie