I have been with my current boyfriend, officially, for 5 months. Before that he was cheating on his last girlfriend, of 2 years, with me. I now live with him because I had a fire in my condo, so I moved in with him. I am worried about his relationship with his ex-girlfriend.
The break-up wasn’t bad, he loved her and it was hard for them, she also never knew he was cheating on her. They now remain great friends, and they talk on the phone- all the time! They now work together, are involved in organizations together, they even have lunch sometimes, and he does things for her, such as handyman work, etc. at her apartment.
I told him he should not be having any type of relationship with her outside of their professional relationship, going to her apartment, and social meetings are not allowed. He says he understands this, but I still am parnoid. I realy believe they are still sleeping together. What am I to do if I feel he is not being truthful? — Missy
…………………………………….
Missy, when you get involved with a guy who cheats, you set yourself up for a lot of trust issues. Demanding that he do certain things and not do certain things makes you into a bitch. He’s on excellent terms with his former girlfriend, maybe still is in love with her, and it wouldn’t be a surprise if all of your demands and paranoia don’t push him right back to her.
Yep, he just might be sleeping with her, and you. Just as he was sleeping with you, and her. It’s a mess but that’s how it is in a threesome, whether you’re the girlfriend or the other woman.
I don’t have any advice for you. When you’ve had enough, you’ll figure out what to do. — Queenie