I started dating a guy I had been friends with for two years. We were exactly alike in our personalities and the way we handled relationships; we never had real relationships or even fallen in love. We just played with people, only getting what we wanted.
Then we started dating but nothing too serious. The night before he asked me to be his girlfriend, we were at a party. I was really intoxicated and ended up kissing his best friend; he walked in on us. We eventually got over that and became serious.
About three months into the relationship he broke up with me. He said he wasn?t ready for a relationship. Two nights later he started sleeping with his ex again. Only a few weeks later we got back together and worked everything out.
We dated a little over nine months and everything was perfect, sure we fought a little but who doesn?t? I became the first person, other than his mother, that he ever said ?I love you? to and he started opening up.
One night we had a few friends over at my apartment and we were
all drinking. His friend went into my bathroom and started calling for me. I didn?t know what he wanted; I?d only seem him a few times. I went into the bathroom and he grabbed my arms and he kept saying ?give me a kiss.? Finally I gave him a small peck on the lips and he let go of me. I kept it from my boyfriend for a few weeks.
When I finally told him, he got so anger he dumped me. Now he is giving me all these mixed signals and I don?t know what to do. One minuet he says he wants to be with me, I just hurt his pride too bad. Then he says he wants to be friends; then he says he wants me completely out of his life?but he still loves me. We have been apart over a month and I am going crazy. I try to give him space but he won?t give me the time of day. I call him once a week and if his friends are around he is mean and cruel. I don?t deserve him telling me I?m a cheating slut that should burn in Hell.
I know I messed up but I am truly sorry. And it is killing me for people to tell me they?ve seen him around with different girls. A couple of weeks ago he told me he wasn?t trying to get over me; he doesn?t wasn?t to date anyone else. Last night he said he wanted to get over me and wants me completely out of his life. I know he?s scared and the only reason he?s been like this is to prevent himself from being hurt. He?s even told me that. I said if he?d just give me chance I?d never hurt him again. I don?t know what to do, I am miserable. And I don?t deserve being called names and cussed out by him and his friends.
Thanks for your time. — Broken Hearted
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From what you’ve said, he has already given you another chance… and you let him down again. A lot of people wouldn’t have gotten a second chance, you did, but you were just too weak to walk away from temptation.
It doesn’t matter how scared he is, he doesn’t want to take any more chances on you. Stop calling, stop trying to get him back. He’s made his choice and if there’s any chance for you at all, it will be when you stop trying to get back with him and start living your life without him. Maybe he’ll decide it’s worth taking another chance on love with you. I, personally, wouldn’t bet on it.
Please take this lesson into your new relationships so they don’t end up the same way. — Queenie