Dear Queenie, I have been in a relationship for 6yrs. and I have been thinking of leaving him because he is not romantic at all. He says that he isn’t like that!
All I want is for him to cuddle with me. I mean even just touch me in any way!! Now the sexual part is fine when he wants it. I want to know if its me or what i am doing wrong? He says he loves me but how do i know that!! — Angie
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Angie, there’s nothing wrong with you for wanting to be kissed and cuddled. He says he isn’t like that? What did he do when the two of you first met? Did he go right for sex or did he kiss and cuddle you to get you in the mood?
If you left him he would have to go back into dating mode to meet his next long term lover and that would mean kissing and cuddling in order to get to his goal of sex.
I really don’t know what to tell you other than if he was always this way you knew what you were getting in to. If he was romantic in the beginning, then he’s just focusing on his own needs now and it may take some drastic action on your part in order to get him to put the focus back on what you need.
Foreplay is very important in intimate relationships. If he won’t work on romance, is this how you want to live the rest of your life? Can you really go a lifetime without being kissed and cuddled? — Queenie