Her Boyfriend And Her Best Friend
I’ve been living with my boyfriend of 2 yrs and nine months for about a year and a half. We’d both talked of marriage and had definite plans for the future, or so I thought. Yesterday he tells me he can’t stop thinking about my best friend. This guy is not your usual jock/insensitive guy. He’s one of those whimpy intellectuals. I was totally thrown for a loop.
Then my ex best friend goes and dumps her live-in boyfriend too! Now they’ve started dating! He just told me this yesterday. The worst part is that we all work at the same job. He and her work in the same department. I’m sort of their supervisor.
The thing that sucks the most is that she now has a upper track with him because she’s seen all the stuff we’ve been through, so I suppose that they will live happily ever after and this totally hurts.
We are still living together with another friend of mine because we’re broke and I still want to be his friend because we’ve been through so much. This is the worst thing that’s happened in my life. I can’t believe that this sort of thing happens everyday to people.
I just want to know how to feel better, so I can stop crying and not being able to sleep because all I can think about is them together. I could probably start dating someone tomorrow, but I want to get over this healthily. I don’t want to turn into a man hater and never be able to trust anyone again.
Oh another awful thing is that this girl is the person whose shoulder I would have cried on if this wasn’t partially her fault. I know I should get some hobbies or something but I don’t feel like doing anything but die. — Sad Tomato
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Sad, you lost two of your closest friends with this one act and it’s no wonder that you feel sad and depressed. The working together and living together situations just continue to compound the problems. Will you consider counseling to help work through all the emotions you’re having to deal with? There’s too much going on that’s all tied together and you would probably benefit by counseling.
As far as them living happily ever after — don’t bet on it. The trust fact might be a little shaky since each of them KNOWS the other cheated on their last lover. How long before one of them starts wondering if the other is cheating once again?
Try to focus on yourself and not on what you think is going on with them. — Queenie