My question is: I have a friend that i am extremely close with. She and I would usually do everything together. We would stay on the phone each night for hours and on the weekends, we would hang out most all weekend.
The problem is, I met a man that i have quickly became serious with. We are spending alot of time together which takes away from me being able to talk on the phone for hours and spend every waking moment with my best friend.
At first I would try to make time to do something with her and plan special things for us to do and that was fine. Now, she is starting to cancel plans with me and is being very short.
A few weeks back my new found love and i had a argument and I called her for comfort and advice. Instead of tring to help me deal with my anger, she kept slamming him, and draging his name though the mud.
I love her very much but i also love spending time with my new man. Please give me some advice as to how I should handle this relationship…
Ps. I have tried talking to her several times and every time she says that she is not upset and changes the subject. — Kathy
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Kathy, it’s normal for your friend to feel the loss of your companionship now that you’re spending so much time with your new love. The two of you were a team and now that team no longer exists because you’ve found someone else you’d rather be with than her.
You can’t expect her to be ready and willing to help you work through the rough spots of your relationship with your new guy if that’s the only time you get in contact with her.
What you’ve done is dumped her for your guy and she’s unhappy. Rightly so. Having a boyfriend doesn’t mean you can’t hang out with your girlfriends once in a while.
Of course if you and your guy could maybe fix her up with someone, she wouldn’t be sitting home alone waiting for you to call. — Queenie