My friend of Three years has been acting really strange lately. When we first met we were unsepartable. We spent holdidays together, spent the night at each others houses, I even cooked for her when I wouldn’t cook for my man. We were tight.
But I first noticed a problem when I got sick about two years ago with a blood disorder which causes me to become seriously anemic which makes me weak I noticed during that period she didn’t come visit me while I was bed ridded.
I first didn’t think to much of it. But A year late I fell into a deep depression after using a diet drug. and it happened again. I began to notice the only time she called is when she needed something and she became to hang out with other friend and barely came to see me. We I confronted her about it she stated it’s was because I moved to far. But I am only 20 minutes away now.
I began to feel maybe she couldn’t handle beginning around sick people so I sucked it up. But about a month she stop calling me again and would rush me off the phone when i called and haven’t been to see me in about 2 months. I even suggested that I come visit, but she always seems to shut that idea down. She then called out of the blue one day saying that she was recently pregnant and was too tired to talk. But what she doesn’t know that I over heard her talking about me to a close friend.
Although she dissed me I allowed her back into my life and now she only calls me when she has a problem, she doesn’t visit anymore and when I try to talk to her about the issues in my life she rushes me off the phone. But the last straw for me was when she called me the other day to tell me about an arguement she had and I tried to tell her that my grandmother died she told me she had to go and didn’t called back until three days later when her boyfriend left her.
I spoke to a mutuall friend of ours about the situation and he told me not to stop beening her friend and that I was to blame to expected her to be their for me because she is a selfish person and as long as she is not causing me physical harm, then we should be cool.
But I don’t know If i agree. My definition of a friend is someone whom is there for me as much as I am there for them. Am I wrong??
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Not every friendship is meant to last forever. Nor is every friendship meant to be as close and as confining as the one the two of you had when you first met. She isn’t comfortable within the definition you put on friendship. It’s your definition but not necessarily hers. Time to back away and give her some space. — Queenie