I have been a my boyfriend for 3 years and we recently got engaged. We get along great most of the time but we don’t have disagreements very well. He usually flies off the handle because I can just leave an issue alone and sleep on it for awhile. Our fights have sometimes gotten physical.
His answer to a misunderstanding is for me to leave him alone and mine is to try and resolve it so we don’t go away mad. I don’t want to lose him because I love him and he says that he will always love me but it scares him when the fights have gotten physical.
He has broken off the engagement and wants to take some time apart and see what happens. How can we disagree or agrue constructively without it getting physical. Is it possible to avoid confrontation all together? Thanks for your help! — Steva
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Steva, right now your relationship is physically abusive. If you don’t do something, you may end up another statistic. Have your arguments always turned physical?
If there’s to be a chance for this relationship working out, the two of you need some counseling to bring your communication skills closer in line. I personally don’t believe that a good relationship won’t have some confrontations at times, but there should NEVER be physical abuse of any kind. Love should never leave black eyes or bruises. — Queenie