About a month ago, I confimed that my wife was indeed invloved with a man that was part of her past prior to our marriage. We are both activated reservists, serving in different locations and this man was assigned to her unit.
We had some problems in our marriage but I always wanted her to open up and talk about the things that bothered her. I learned that she had never stopped loving the other fellow and when things went rough at our home, well she ran to him. He is married as well.
Being that all parties are married and active duty military, I took this information to my commander and requested that a formal investigation begin for punishment under the UMCJ. I realize that I have destroyed her career and hurt to no end.
I feel guilty by doing this since I know that I still love her. Even after I saw emails from her to him and they discussed that I would have the guts to press the issue. After seeing her love for him and her admission that she only came to because of our son.
Queenie should I feel bad? I never was unfaithful to my wife and I sacrificed so much to provide for her and our family. Now things are going to get real bad for her, however I think that he is getting everything he deserves. — Chad
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Chad, being betrayed can cause us to sometimes do things we might later regret. I don’t know whether or not you should feel bad about turning them in, after all, the military wouldn’t take action if this type of thing was “acceptable and allowable” behavior.
She acted, you reacted. She couldn’t have expected you to just graciously go away. Whether it was the right move for you, and your future relationship with your family, only time will tell. — Queenie