I spent the past two years living with my ex-boyfriend (in MY house). Early on, I talked with his friends hoping for insight regarding his character/M.O./basically: is he a good person? I was placated with a mixed bag of life experiences including his wife who abandoned him and their 3 babies. My heart went out to him and I truly felt he was a good person. We had fun, he made me laugh, we never fought. I thought we were in love.
However, my family immediately couldn’t stand him and my 6-year old daughter hated him. Then, he wouldn’t work, he drove MY car, I paid all of the bills and did all of the housework, ie., I supported him. I repeatedly urged him to get a job; finally he cashiered at a gas station.
Long story short, he sucked me dry: I am flat broke and deeply in debt. He owes me THOUSANDS. I’ll never see it. He set me up. I threw him out and finally found out the truth: This is his M.O.!!! He’ll soon find another dumb, blind unsuspecting woman to take him in.
I blame myself. I am an intelligent, educated woman. I should have seen through him. I am just sick over how easily he manipulated me and my entire life savings. HOW DO I DEAL WITH THE ENORMOUS SPECTRUM OF EMOTIONS I AM GOING THROUGH?
MY MIND IS REELING, I HAVE TO FIND A SOURCE OF PEACE AND COMFORT, LEARN FROM THIS, ACCEPT IT, PUT IT BEHIND ME AND MOVE ON, BUT HOW??? PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE HELP BEFORE I CRUMBLE IN PAIN. — gypsy
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Gypsy, do you really think you’re the only woman to fall for some guy’s slick story? Of course not! You made a mistake. You trusted him despite warnings from friends and family. That happens. It was costly but no doubt you won’t be quite so trusting the next time and you might pay a little more attention to the opinion of your friends (and your daughter).
Stop beating yourself up! We all make mistakes. He’s a loser. You thought he was a good guy and you found out the hard way that he wasn’t. So what. You live and learn. — Queenie