My now husband just told me he cheated on me with a close friend. The problem is we were dating at the time and I was also pregnant and he knew it. But they kept on until they finally decided to quit. He told me the reason was that he missed the beginning of a relationship feeling.
I dont know what to do. Our son is only 3 mths. old now. And im totally lost. He still wants to be friends with her but I cant have that. I told him if he continued being friends then we were over. He hasnt made a decision yet.
Im so confused. What should I do. I really love him and I dont want to lose him. But this just hurts me. Ill never forget or forgive. I dont know that I can. Please help me. — Penny
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Penny, at some point, if your marriage is to last, you’re going to have to forgive what he has done. You don’t have to forget, just put it way back in a closed box of bad memories that you don’t open often.
His reason for cheating on you is bogus. He “missed the beginning of a relationship feeling”?! Come on! If he’s going to remain married to you, he won’t be having any more of those “beginning relationship feelings”. That lust and sizzle give way to love and caring. Is he capable of that? Or is he too immature to be a husband and father?
Of course he should end the friendship with her! Does he care more about your feelings or hers? You’re his wife, the mother of his child. If he can’t put his priorities in the proper order, you’ve got a problem that needs correcting. You shouldn’t have to wait for him to make a decision as to how he’s going to handle this. Either he’s in the marriage or he’s out. Either way, he has a legal responsibility toward your child.
A marriage has to have two people pulling the same way, with the same goals. This “close friend” has no place in your marriage or in your home.
Just my opinion, of course. — Queenie