I have known this woman for approx 13 yrs. We have always been sexually compatible with good chemistry. She has been divorced twice. I am presently married and have been for 22 yrs.
We have had on and off encounters over the years. But, about three years ago we started seeing each other. When she told me her child was mine, but married this other guy so it would not hurt me since I was married. Then she broke it off.
A week later she said she changed her mind and wanted to keep seeing each other. Well last week she dumped on me. I have become attached to the child who is now 10yrs. I am not happily married but want to wait a few years so my children are through high school before divorcing.
She says she doesn’t want to be #2. Doesn’t want me to choose to divorce, just wants to be friends and wants time alone with her and her child alone. But, the last couple of months she has been short with me and playing some sort of games.
I have helped her so much and there is so many things we are tied to. And things I have left at her home. Should I just leave it alone. I love this woman very much and I think she loves me or else she is a real good actor. — John
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John, you’re setting a lousy example for your children. Either stay married and leave this woman alone or get out of your marriage and get together with her but don’t try to juggle the feelings of two women and two families.
You shortchange everyone no matter how great you might think you’re behaving by staying until your children are grown. — Queenie