Well since you give yourself so little credit…. Had you ACTUALLY listended to me instead of judging me, you would have seen that your advice did play a part in the final decision. Not all affairs end up on the dark side.
Just to let you know, we only spoke on the phone tonight. And we did “break up” again. But this time it’s really over. Something has shifted or changed, and thank God or whoever!!! I wanted to meet in person at first, then I spoke to him and he said “it’s been a couple of days… I can’t do it face to face, it’ll be too hard”. I respected that, no problem. Because I understand his confusion. And it is over.
It’s the same old crackers syndrome. Once you find a new flavor, you are all about it, and it’s the best cracker in the world, but that cracker too will get old.
Queenie, I thought I had found some kind of support here, a site where I could be myself and basically explain all of my feelings while in the midst of a possible affair? Again, had you REALLY listened you would have seen that I was a woman torn, but not a bad person. Just a WOMAN that was faced with an EXTREMELY difficult decision!!! Not knowing what to do??? And you have made me see (yet again), that there are far more bitter people in this world?
I’m sorry if you have ever been cheated on. As a woman I KNOW that it’s the worst feeling in the world!!!! But I also recognize, when two people have a connection beyond words, it’s just that. And for that reason alone, I have learned, that it’s a once in a lifetime advantage to have this connection, married, straight, gay, whatever. It’s a blessing. It really is!!!
I came here for help, not judgemental bullshit. I am real. Hear me, for I have a voice. Love’s only ambition is to be satisfied!!!
Take care….
And thanks again: D
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You wrote wanting support for what you were doing, getting involved with a married man. Did you really expect me to cheer you on, validate the soul mate connection, give you pointers? Didn’t I refer you to a site where you could get that support?
For the past week you have argued that the two of you have a soul mate connection and that your relationship is meant to be. If that was true, nothing would or will keep the two of you apart. If he felt as strongly as you do he wouldn’t let a wife and kids stand in his way.
Bitter? No, just realistic. Too many women write to me with the same story just different words. And too many other women write to me about their broken marriages.
Yes, you are real. And you deserve your own man, one on a full time basis. Not one who wants to keep you as a side dish or someone to spice up his dull marriage. — Queenie