Following 5 years of marriage and 4 children my wife had an affair with a friend. The affair was exposed and then she lied about the sex for a period of 36 years, now I am aware and am wondering what to do. Remember the trust, loyalty, humility, insult, and dispair is gone.
She feels, it happened so long ago it should be forgotton, thats easy for her to say but now our whole family is aware of her exploits and reputation that will follow her forever. I find now we just live with one another as all honesty and trust is gone. She claims to have made a mistake but following sexual contact 5 times a mistake?
I am very disappointed in her to say the least and every time I have a chance I remind her of her betrayal. What kind of a wife would allow herself to get involved in such a state. — Disappointed
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So 36 years ago she had an affair that lasted through 5 sexual trysts and you have never let her live it down? And she has stayed with you for all these years? What a miserable waste of time for the both of you.
You don’t understand how forgiveness works and given the length of time you have been holding your anger, you’re probably never going to forgive her. What a shame for the both of you and your family members.
I can’t give you any advice. You didn’t ask for any. You wanted to know what kind of wife would get involved in an affair? Perhaps one who had no chance of understanding or warmth at home. — Queenie