I have been in a relationship for six years with this man, he says that his divorce is taking alot longer than it should. We have been fighting alot like every few minutes, everytime he calls me we have a fight. The reason we fight is that he does not make the time to talk or communicate in our relationship. He finally says that his ex-wife to be is so psychotic and I am beginning to be psychotic.
I want to spend more time with him but he shuts the door and I can not get in to share his bad times, good times etc. He says he has alot going on in his life, well I asked him to share them with me and he says that he can’t, or he just does not want to. He used to share the most important things with me but a year ago he changed and has not had alot of time for us, instead he wants to spend more time working and away from us.
I have an 8-year-old son, he is not his, but unfortunately I divorced and when I got divorced I met D. D used to be so nice and kind, gentle and loving but now he is just a mean and abusive person. He says that I made up lies about the domestic violence, he says that all the police departments have me on their file as being crazy, well that hurt. I called the police departments and they do not have me down as being crazy.
Please help I do not know where to turn. He says that he will make my life hell if I cause more domestic violence issues, he has a police badge, honorary, but still he uses it to its fullest. I love him alot but I am afraid of being alone and not being able to make it on my own, he has supported us for six years. I love him but I am afraid he will never have time for me. He asked me the other day if he was worth waiting for I yelled at him and said no, do I think that there is really a relationship here. — Mary
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Mary, a man who is married to someone else is not a good choice for a boyfriend no matter how bad he says his marriage is. When you’re involved for six years and he still isn’t divorced, he’s stringing you along.
If you think it’s difficult being his girlfriend, consider how difficult it must be being his wife. If by some incredible miracle he should actually get divorced it’s unlikely he would turn around and marry you.
Men like this don’t have a good track record for marrying their girlfriends. But, if by some further miracle he DID actually marry you, how long do you think it would be before he would find another girlfriend and give her the same story he gave you?
There is no good that can come from this relationship. If you’re staying for the support, is it really worth it? — Queenie