Dear queen, I married me husband because I was pregnant. I thought that would be the answer to my problems despite his bad temper and mean outbursts. Today is our two year wedding anniversary and I have been in tears all morning.
Despite many obstacles and a near divorce last summer (I had signed the paperwork but he talked me into staying for the sake of our baby) love is still on the rocks. He is very mean, verbally abusive, and fits the pattern of many other abusive husbands without the physical threat.
I am not attracted to him, I hate having sex with him. We do not laugh together, I do not appreciate his humor at all(mostly jokes about sex). I do not think that he is a responsible parent. I simply dread being around his negative attitude most of the time. The only thing that we have in common is our beautiful and happy 3 year old.
If we divorce, we both will be financially ruined if I fight for half of the business we own together. What do you think I should do? Be blunt. Sincerely, Lost
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Dear Lost, being as blunt as I can be, you got what you had. Why did you think marriage would solve all your problems and change this man into someone different than he was? He was abusive, he is abusive. Then you accepted his abuse, now you don’t. Color me confused.
I can’t make decisions for you because I won’t have to live with the result of those decisions. I do know that peace of mind doesn’t always equate to how much money you have or how many possessions you own.
What kind of example are you setting for your child? What would you say to your child if he or she were in this type of marriage?
If fighting for the business financially ruins the both of you maybe you should sell your portion of the business to him and get a good legal arrangement so that you and your child are financially taken care of. Or you could buy him out and provide some financial aid for him. There are ways to end a marriage without destroying everything you have.
Just my opinion. — Queenie